i like this guy and i told him, he likes me too but he never said it. we were so close 2 going out. he knows everything about me even that i said that i havent had sex in a year and i plan not to anymore. but last night i had sex with a guy that goes to my school. and i told the boy i like this morning. now he wont talk 2 me. what should i do?
2007-01-18 05:00:04 · 18 answers · asked by tiffany b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he liked you it's over. You can't tell a guy you just slept w/someone else and expect him to just let it go after you told him you weren't going to do that anymore. He's lost respect for you.
2007-01-18 05:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong! You shouldn't feel bad for your actions, unless of course you were pressured into having sex. Even then you shouldn't feel bad, but are more concerned that this guy won't like you or that you had sex when you said you wouldn't?
If the issue is the boy that you like, then he has no right to be mad at you (aside from the fact that he is a boy and probably emotionally awkward, like myself). It sounds like he did like you or is jealous that he did not get to be the one to be physical with you. However, you have no obligation to this guy who won't commit to you. Make sure you stand up for what you believe in. And don't confuse his emotions with your truth! If he isn't going to like you, you should not have bend over backwards to change. You should move on and so should he.
Be safe!
2007-01-18 13:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first thing remember people like you. Now that you know people like you you could ask, if different things make different people happy what might make the person you like happy.
Psychologists have studied this. There is a thing called the Myers Briggs test that gives a few letters description of what people are like.
Is he Outgoing or shy (E or I)
Practical n sensation oriented or Concept oriented (S or N)
hinks Ideas matter or Feelings matter more (T of F)
Easygoing n spontaneous or likes plans (P or J)
If the person you like is an ENFJ Then you might just be friends
Id the person you like is an ESFP Then an erotic move more than make up conversation will be a thrill.
Eiher way people like thinking n talking about who they are. Go to http://www.keirsey.com/ have your person try the test, then go from there
2007-01-18 13:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by treonbarleyverdery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm from the 'old school', but1st of all, having sex before you are mature enough to understand what it is for...is really sad...but now you've done it and it will certainly be difficult to stop...Why don't you try to be responsible for yourself and do what is in your heart to do 'the right thing'... If you really liked this 'other guy', you wouldn't have been giving yourself to someone else... Grow up, girl!! If this 'other guy' knows what's good for him, he'll be careful to date a girl who is so immature...You evidently do not think very highly of yourself...why do you expect someone else to?
2007-01-18 13:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Gardener 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not ready to be having sex. If you liked that guy, you shouldn't have been sleeping with someone else. Focus on yourself and take some time off from boys and sex.
2007-01-18 13:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,, there is something called apology, you should ask yourself first ,, why did you have sex with the other guy while you like the other,, I think what in his mind that you have preferred some one else on him and now he want you to get straight with him.. what you should do in my opinion ,, go to him apologize for hurting his feeling and insulting his manhood,, and explain why you had had sex with the other person,, if all goes well then ask him if he would like to have sex with you ,, if he say yes then have him in your bed and have more talk to him there,, its will be very effective listening when you are in intimate moments ,, good luck
2007-01-18 13:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by herosam2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you had sex with another boy in spite of liking this boy. you cant reverse that but you can talk it out with the boy you like and I'm sure he'll understand. if not then give it some time. tell him it wouldn't have happened if you were committed to him .
2007-01-18 13:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing
He did the right thing in not talking to you. Why'd you tell him
It's so funny that women get these guilty consciences that win them over. I mean, do you really think he would tell you? He probably already boned another female
2007-01-18 13:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your just a person and u like him alot so he should 4-give u and still like u the way u do him......
2007-01-18 13:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize, talk to him an don't have sex until you are married.
2007-01-18 13:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Pilgrim in the land of the lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋