this guy an i have a long distance relation ship, we havent meet yet iv only seen a few pictures, but they were a year ago. so i dont really know how he looks, he loves me alout wev been talking for 8 months now, he would do anything to see me and be with me, the thing is im scared i wont have feelings for him...i barley have any whenever we talk and i want to be with him and fall in love as he is with me, i care about him so much! iv never had an relationship 1st time me ever having some feeling for someone, i wouldent understande why i wouldent have feelings for him...its really stressing me out hes so perfect its just theres something blocking me from it i would be so pissed off if i found out i wasent there with him so plz tell me whats blocking me.....
2007-01-18 04:58:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whats blocking you is that you know that you've never met him before and so you know there's the chance where there may not be chemistry between you two after all, and that you would be kinda stuck cuz you know he has feelings for you. But in honest truth, just go for it, stop worrying about what will happen, life is too short for that... laugh it off and smile ;)
2007-01-18 05:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mark F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, come on, a long distance relationship for 8 months, give urself some credit, I understand how it's like to be in a long distance relationship myself.... what's blocking you here is exactly what you mentioned, you've never even seen him or know how he looks....
Ok, think about this: u care about him a lot right? And you already have seen his pics a while back, let's say, what if he looks a little different, what if his talking tone is different, what if the way he acts is different in real life, in person??? Would u not still care about him?
What ur going thru is a tough time cuz you care about him SO much and yet you feel you don't know him (cuz u haven't seen him), and so ur scared of believing you truly love him. Hey, u know what's great about this relationship of yours? You fell directly for his heart, not for anything else! I mean, that's a dream! So.... try to meet him, or if u can't, TALK a lot instead of chatting online, ask him what he likes, and look for gestures here and there about whether he truly likes you or takes u seriously, and then ask yourself if u feel the same way about him....
And the best test, give urself some time. Don't go on continuing chatting or talking a lot without being sure about ur feelings for him. Take ur time, retreat, DON'T talk or chat for a few days, a week, or more, and see if not being in touch with him, or not having him around makes you miss him....... if you can't bear it anymore, you know ur in love....
2007-01-18 05:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Praveen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Quote, “Love takes time.” by Mariah Carey
Love -vs.- Infatuation
What you're asking for is Infatuation
infatuation is a passion. Passion is defined as any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling. I'm sure that you must love your family members but I doubt if your feelings for them are powerful or compelling.
What I'm saying is that there is nothing wrong with you. Just take your time and eventually a real for him will develop.
You want to love him, not be in love with him. And take a look at the definitions of these words at the link that I left...
Infatuation; in love(definition # 25); and passion;
And this is how the bible defines Love @ 1st Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (and most of all) Love never fails.
2007-01-18 05:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by ‹(•¿•)› 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are unsure of yourself first off. & secong if you barely have feelings for him when you talk over the phone, then you might want to talk to him about your feelings or go about it a different way. Like say try to tell him that you want to just be friends and get to know him more as a friend first before you become bf and gf or if it goes that far. Third, rely on your gut feelings. & what your heart tells you. Ask yourself if your heart is feeling the same way for him as your head is......that will make a big diff. Fourth, when and if you do meet him, it will be a whole new ball game with him. Just fyi, for the fact that he is just a voice over the phone and pics about a year ago, so be careful, b/c if you want him right now and you meet and then you realize you dont like him or dont have those same feelings for him as you do now or WANT to for him, then just take it slowly. Very slowly. It is better to have someone as a friend first and thats when you start to fall in love with that person. Trust me, i have been dating since i was 16. & i have fallen in and out of love. So just be careful hunny. Listen to your feelings, your heart, and the facts. NOT YOUR HEAD!
2007-01-18 05:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by fryeindustries2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, having a long distance relationships is different than everyday life & since you haven't met him yet you have only talked too him for 8 months you really still do not know this person so trust your instincts but be honest with him also tell him you do not know how you really feel about him & him saying that he's truly in love with you is highly questionable too me cause he also does not know you , he could be one that falls in love with everyone that he talks too , he maybe on the up up ; just be on your guard beleive in your insticts hun trust your first impression if it's meant too be it will be if not you will know .
Good Luck & take Care
2007-01-18 05:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think is normal why you would not have the same feelings for him you only know him for what he tells you. you dont know him personally. I think you should tell him the truth about your feelings dont lie about that. You need to be honest and probably it might help if you meet him in person to finally see what he is like. You must be careful when you have a relationship with someone you dont know. I dont know he could be someone who has a life with someone else and he might be just looking to have a good time with you. I mean theres alot of people who have a girlfriend or boyfriend and peolple who are already married that lie about their marital status and their age. They start a ciber-relationship with someone else just for the heck of it. I think you need to date someone local. Well I wish you luck what ever it is you decide to do im sure you will be ok.
2007-01-18 05:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seems like you click on the emotional side, but are not sure when it comes to the physical side...so unfortunately the way to find out is meet. And, it could just be you guys are better off being friends. I know when I click with a guy-this doesn't mean I see them as Mr. right-I seriously have to think about the whole picture,, and I seriously have to have physical feelings for him as well, and if I don't...then it's obvious I'm not into them like that. It's OK...you don't have to date him...you time will come. Believe me. I'm 19-and still patiently waiting.
2007-01-18 05:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very common to get depressed if you have acne. Just remember you are absolutely not alone. I had acne for many years and I got control of it. It is not impossible. I did not have luck with a lot of harsh creams, medications, and lasers used by dermatologists. However, some people have had this work well for them. It ended up making my skin worse and I felt really depressed as well. I got control of my acne by finding out that a lot of foods triggered it and that I was allergic to a lot of things. I also switched to more natural skin care products and treatments when I became an esthetician. Here are some of the main foods that triggered acne for me refined carbohydrates, sugars, caffeine, wheat, soy, and especially dairy. A healthy diet can help your skin, but I would try avoiding certain foods for a week at a time to see if it helps your skin. I then got help for my food allergies with an alternative allergy treatment derived from the theory of NAET. It really helped. As for external skincare: Try to find a natural line of products either online or from a health food store. Get a sensitive skin gel based cleanser and wash only twice a day. Then get a gentle grain scrub and exfoliate at least 2-3 time a week. If it dries your skin too much, then lessen to once a week. If you can't afford an exfoliant then try baking soda twice a week. Then apply a lightweight oil free moisturizer. If you are really oily then try a gel based one. However, make sure you uses some kind of moisturizer because many people with acne don't and end up triggering more oil production because they dry their skin out too much. Many people with acne have digestion problems and that is why a lot of toxins come out in their skin. I highly suggest getting a digestive enzyme to eat with all meals to help you digest foods. In addition, taking daily zinc and vitamin c powder several times a day will help too. I wish you the best of luck.
2016-05-24 03:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Teresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he is perfect, but, you have never met him. I was going to say how old are you. And that if you are under 18 you should have someone with you the first time you meet him. But, honestly, I am 30 and would take someone with me.
You really do not know him. All you know is what he is telling you. Be careful.
2007-01-18 05:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by jenchell1994 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept one hard solid fact - you do NOT have a real relationship with him. You've never even met him, never talked to him face-to-face. What you have is a idealized, sterilized, virtual image of who you want him to be. You are both trying to have the comfort of a relationship without putting in any of the real risk and work of a relationship.
The two of you need to meet, in person, and find out if you are compatible, instead of trying to force something that isn't there just because you want it to be. You're frustrated because your virtual romance is inherently incapable of satisifying your real romantic needs. Meet him, and either dare to begin a REAL relationship, or break it off.
2007-01-18 05:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋