i want to know why mits hard to let go of someone u really love?

Question

ok i want someone to emphasize a little on why its hard for u let go of someone u really love why its so hard to let go of that bond u guys shared whether it be love or family but my entity is on love

Answer 1

LOVE is LOVE.... a brilliant man once said "if you EVER love someone, then you always love them...and if you can say you don't, then you never really did"

Deep Huh..... but it's true

as you spend time with one that you love you develop more than just an attraction, you begin to share who they are, you begin to relate to them, you feel their feelings, you share a "oneness"

When that oneness becomes broken it leaves you feeling empty and alone again... the first thing everyone wants to do is feel that "oneness" again. The easiest and obvious choice is the one you have already shared that with... after all they have the peices of you which are missing, they would be the mosy ideal "replacement"

It's hard to share your innermost self with another person, and starting over is scary...

let me give you a very good example of what it is like to share intimacy with someone (sex or not).... sharing intimacy is like super glueing two boards together, together the boards are stronger and fulfilled,but then one day someone comes along and rips the two boards apart, being the boards are SUPER glued, they do not come apart easily...once pryed apart pieces of the one board are stuck alll over the other board and vice versa, applying this to yourself, parts of you are forever gone to this other person (you long for those parts back) parts of the other person are stuck all over you, parts that fit you together at the time, but now they are parts you really don't know what to do with, so they just become scars, some good some bad, but parts you can never completely let go of.... some scars take longer than others to heal, and they are ALWAYS there, even if you can hide them....

My question is love is just that... it's love.... just because you can't share it in the same way with that person as before, does it change it.... no, so why not allow yourself the love and the joy of what made you love in the first place. Resolving that it is over at least for this time (however long that may be)... just remember love is a beautiful thing, you can always have enough... for those in the past and those in the future, one does not negate the other, but as scars do, the pain does subside as time allows all healing.

Embrace your love.... it's all the hatred and bitterness that are tearing us apart, when really there is enough love for everyone.

Focus your attention elsewhere for awhile... like loving yourself!

Good Luck

Answer 2

Letting go of someone and loving them tend to evoke polar opposite emotions. We want to hold what we love close to us, so that we can cherish, protect and enjoy. Letting go means that we are going to allow that to leave our protection and although you can still cherish it to some degree, you do not get to enjoy and nurture it like you did when it was close. A great example is being a daddy, my oldest daughter is soon to be married and I am going to have to let go. I will not stop loving her, but I will have to allow someone else to fill that part in her life that I have for so long. The same can be true of an intimate relationship, if you love someone and they decide to leave because it is not working out, that does not mean that you can just stop loving them and in that case it also means somehow the relationship failed and we as people hate to admit failure, so we try to hold on when we should let go.

Answer 3

It is so hard to let go because its like what am I gonna do after this is over. When I had to leave someone something that almost stopped me was the feeling of not having love anymore. You could be afraid of not having that sort of j9ob feeling that you have when you're with someone, such as needing to call them and keeping up with communication and just basically loving them. What would it be like without that love

Answer 4

There are many reasons why its so hard to let go of anyone you love deeply. Its never going to be easy, whether its your first love, your husband, you family any member passing away, it is very hard. You learn to love and to hate, and forgive and forget, and all these are hard to start with. Just think of how used you are and comfortable around your family. You are so used to them to be in pajamas, no make up, but you cant do this in another household. You love them, and you will hate them when they do something to you or don't give you your way. But if one of them dies, you will be in pain, heartbroken asking why god took them away. If your relationship fails, for his reason not yours, it will be hard to let go. You were so comfortable with this person and you shared so much, you cant picture yourself with anyone in there place. But think back to before you had this relationship, you were used to someone else, or you were fine by yourself.
The fact is that it is hard because you are human, and you develop feelings of attachment to this person, you get used to them being around, and get comfortable thinking they will be there for ever, but they wont. Its hard because you love and love makes you happy but it also hurts you.

Answer 5

i really wanna answer this question an it sucks cuz i wanna know the same thing but i dunKno why maybe itz because we fall too hard..iono

p.S From someone who can really relate!