my son is only 4, he is in junior kindergarten. He used to LOVE school, and recently he's put up a huge big fuss and argument over how badly he does not want to go. So, I brought out his class picture today, and asked him to tell me who everyone was, and if they were his friends or not. He pointed to a girl, in Senior K, (they mix them here in ON) he sais she yelled at him, and he cried, and then the teacher made her say sorry. I'm not sure if this goes on. I have asked him, but he doenst answer me. I don't want to press him too much about it. I'm not sure if he is really being bullyed or not, but he seems to talk about this girl and her friend quite a bit, not bad, just mentions their names. I am trying so hard to listen to him. I am going to speak to the teacher today, and see if she notices anything different in him lately too. Anyway, I am feeling pretty anxious about the whole thing. Is it normal for me to be this worried? I just don't know what we'l be able to do if he is?
2007-01-18 04:51:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
By the way, I did get teased in school as well. And also my husband told me that if the bullies have seen my son cry, that they will keep targeting him. (this is what happend to me.. I was also emotional as a child, easily hurt) but on the other hand, I want my son to know its o.k to cry.
2007-01-18 04:53:13 · update #1
he does have a receptive language delay.. maybe they are teasing him about that? I sure hope not :(
2007-01-18 05:01:30 · update #2
i'm glad you're talking to the teacher...
and i'd say it's normal to be worried, you're obviously a good mother...and since it's such a personal issue to you-of course you're hypersensitive to it
....kids will always have to deal with bullies and being picked on, etc.....i'm really not sure what the best/recommended way of dealing with bullies is.....i'd suggest tho, that you teach him to enforce personal boundaries (teach him that he CAN say no and use his own judgement in dealing with others)....and let him know that he can ask the teacher for help if he needs to...
good luck
2007-01-18 05:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 Ways: 1. Empty His Bedroom Of All His Favourite Stuff And Say This Is What You Will Have If You Do Not Have An Education. 2. Go Into A Quiet Room And Calmly Say Look, If You Want To Grow Up With No School And No Friends, Fine But Please, With An Education You Can Go Futher. 3.Force Him To School, Throw Him In The Car, Dressed Or Not, And Drive There. 4. Leave Him Alone, Don't Talk To Him Till He Agrees To Go To School 5. Kick Him Out. (Last Resort) Hope this Helps
2016-05-24 03:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok and normal to worry... but I dont know about pulling your child out of the school just yet. I would talk to the teacher and maybe see if you can resolve the issue. Then if not go to the principle... and if no luck then maybe I would concider changing schools.
Its hard on everyone... I also had some hard times as a child biut I was bullied by a teacher instead of another student.
Also I have a nefew that is really hyper and aggresive and he does kinda bully and it is So very Frustrating for our Family. We are really trying because we do not want him to be a bad kid... but some kids are more aggresive then others.
So consider that it's hard on their end also.
Then it must be really hard on the teacher with a full class to watch over all the kids.
2007-01-18 05:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Baby On Board 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes actually it is good to cry. It gets all of your nervousness out. You calm down. And it IS alright to be anxious. You just want best for your son. It is completely normal. What I suggest is that you just lay down and maybe watch some T.V. It will keep your mind off of things. If he IS being bullied then you MUST talk to the teacher. If you don't it could just start getting worse. Oh and your son needs comfort. Keep his mind off of things. If the girl does not stop then I suggest you call her mother.
Email me if you have anymore troubles.
Soccerchick00011@yahoo.com
2007-01-18 05:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by soccerchick00011 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had a problem similar to this when he was in Head Start. Two little boys [brats] took him into the bathroom. One stayed in the bathroom the other went outside of the bathroom [the bathroom was in the class room btw] and he would slam the door [an iron one] onto my son's fingers! His fingers were actually bloody when I picked him up. The teacher said NOTHING about it. We were walking home and I noticed his fingers and I asked him about it. He told me what happened and I turned right around and went back to the school. I was furious! The boy who slammed his fingers is very violent and kept picking on my son. My boy is small for his age even now at 8. I asked the teachers why they didn't tell me about this. The lady in charge said one of the teachers should have told me. Well, I told them off. I told my boy he should just stop going to Head Start he told me-"Mom, if I don't go to Head Start I won't do well in school, if I don't do well in school, I won't do well in College, then we'll never get a nice house" I couldn't argue with that lol.
So what I finally did was told the parent off. He knew his son was beating on my son because I heard the teachers tell him. I had enough! I told him if my son gets hurt by his son again I was going to kick his ***. lol He moved to Mexico two days later. I'm sure it had nothing to do with me but I was glad to see him go!
Maybe you can talk to the parent of the kid that's picking on your son. Of course, don't let your anxiety and anger play into it like I did. I felt pretty stupid after that. It's normal for you to have anxiety. He's a little boy and it doesn't sound like they are doing a very good job at his school. YOu could try to talk to the teachers again too. It's ok to be worried but try not to let your son see it because it will rub off on him. You don't want that. I'm very sorry your son is going through this. I was bullied up until high school, it does change your life. Protect your little one the best you can, see if he has any ideas on what to do. I spoke to my son about what could be done and he had pretty good ideas. Kids aren't stupid, they know deep down inside what to do, it just takes a loving adult to get it to surface and put it to pratice.
2007-01-18 07:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to get bullied A LOT in kindergarten because of the color of my skin, i suggest you figure out why your son is getting bullied and for what reasons fix them if possible my moms solution was to send me to another school but keep in mind that little kids sometimes exaggerate and you should relax a bit you son will be OK just calm down
2007-01-18 04:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anime Geek!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems a little young to me for this to be a bulleying issue. I think that if the teacher had a talk with all of the children about friends and how to treat people approriately this would help this age group. Usually at this age kids are trying to please teachers. I don't think that it has anything to do with your childs issues usually kids are pretty accepting about other kids at this age they just want to play.
2007-01-18 06:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋