We broke up a year ago but I still have feelings for her. At first when we broke up, she was always avoiding me but I managed to work things out and we started talking again, but now suddenly she is ignoring me and avoiding me again. I want her to be AT LEAST my friend! What should I do?
2007-01-18 04:47:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say this to you but if you want an honest answer, here goes: sometimes people want to move on, completely. I am sure she doesn't hate you but for her to move on, in the manner she needs to, she may need to lose all contact with you. It happens in life. I am 43 years old and have had some great friends in my life but I haven't seen some or spoken to some in years because our lives have taken different turns and they will forever be in my thoughts but hey, that's life, they have moved on.
I would not try any more to continue contact. Although it will hurt you to do so, if you continue to try, then she may get angry. Let it be, if she want to contact you, she will but don't push it.
Move on in your life. Take a step in a different direction. I am sure you will find another love or friend that will complete you, once you let go of the feelings you have for your ex.
Be good to yourself. Search for what makes you happy and don't say, it's her...because that is not going to happen. Think about you because you are the most important person right now.
Good Luck.
2007-01-18 04:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by megabites42 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-19 00:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever once think that this woman is your ex? That she has shown that your advances and such are unwanted? You should give her a break. Instead of stalking her and being needy, why do you not get on with your life. She has. You may want to be her friend, but she doesn't. If you don't back off her, you have no chance of anything in the future. You've probably blown it already, get a grip.
2007-01-18 04:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by great gig in the sky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-04-29 09:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a couple breaks up and moves on 1st while they remain friends, she expects the guy to be and remain 'JUST FRIENDS.' Her conscience won't feel guilty of cheating if you guys are 'JUST FRIEND.' But now that you have feelings for her and I'm sure that she knows, she must avoid you because it wouldn't be fair to the person she's dating, or will date.
2007-01-18 05:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by ‹(•¿•)› 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone - she probably has started dating someone new and does not have time to hold your hand and tell you everything will be OK. She does not want to be with you anymore - so take all that time you're using to harass her and go find someone else to date.
2007-01-18 04:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this..but you have to move on....she is avoiding you for a reason...what that reason is I don't know...but it is best that you just come to terms with it and move on...who knows by doing just that you may find the girl that wants to be with you.....
2007-01-18 04:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by beans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your ex. Most ex's aren't mean to be friends after the break-up. She is trying to have her life, with out you in it. Move on babe...find someone new.
2007-01-18 04:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might not want to be your friend... She's your ex... you should leave it at that unless she promotes some sort of mutual friendship...
2007-01-18 04:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by deakjone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably just wants some room to breathe. I would give her space, and let her come to you.
2007-01-18 04:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by Another Nickname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋