I know sex aint the whole thing but it is a big part of the relation ship right? but how come we have like 3 days where we have sex everyday then we go like 3 days and he doesnt even wanna play around i dont understand is it me or what is the deal. and on days he has to work he wont have sex the dy befor bc he is tired i dont get it i work every day of the week and dont not have sex bc i have to work ya know?
**** we have been togeather for 2 years and are getting married in the summer
2007-01-18 04:39:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
U have definately settled into a routine mode. be happy. that means ur man is comfortable with u and you are past that horny little bastard stage. when it is time to have sex he wants to have it with u when he slows down its not because of u but he is comfortable that he does not have to perform like a trained sex monkey :) its nothing go plan ur wedding on ur nights off.
2007-01-18 13:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am going to assume that this is your first real relationship. So, here is some basic backround on my end. I am married for the third time. Been with the current wife for four years now. Ok now that it is said, SO what if your only haveing sex a few times a week? Hell the way my wife works two jobs, and my job (48 to 110 hours a week) we are lucky to have sex at all. Now, yes we do try to make time for eachothers needs in the bedroom. But there have been amny times over the last year where one if not both of us has been too tired, physicaly hurt, or just not that in the mood. THis is a normal reaction to getting setteled in to a realtionship. And the longer you are toghter the more comfortable you well become with eachother. Also you have to communicate with eachother, esspicaly about your sexlife! If you dont share your concerns, wants, needs, and fantisies and hope that your partner well maigicly know your needs, your sorely mistaken.
2007-01-18 15:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Rebelpvtj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhhahaha i wouldnt be worried girl!
men are awfully strange, pure animals
there are a few times a man doesnt wanna have sex.
1- hes dead tired, cant even get an erection if he tried, and rather a long nights sleep instead.
2-hes emotionally depressed.
3-he's bored of the normal sex, and needs some spice!maybe a satisfying fantasy, something he's always dreamed of..
and about him not wanting to play around, maybe hes the "all work no play"type.He likes sex, but gets his priorities straight.maybe he allocates special time for sex so it wont get in the way of his work.
i think he's a witty, professional, sarcastic type guy right?
cause if thats the case, he's a definate charmer in bed, but likes to take breaks so it will feel all the better when he comes back to it.
GOOD LUCK
and besides, if it makes you uncomfortable, talk to him! communication is a vital part of any relationship, much more important then SEX.trust me.tell him how you feel, and see his reaction.
RAVE
2007-01-18 12:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not all about sex. There are other things you need to do in a relationship. Do not just base it on that. You should be happy to get it when you do. He has to work too and is probably to tired to do anything every night of the week.
2007-01-18 12:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion as a married man is that you talk about it now. If he blows up, then there is something underlying. Maybe he wants you to initiate it, without having to tell you try it, but don[t get upset if he rejects you, it is not your fault. He is trying to control the amount and time that sex occurs, if he is controlling in other respects, finances etc, get counseling. Other than that I offer this Haiku:
When the man is tired
He may not be ready to rock
Get a vibrator
That may intimidate him into your satisfaction. or else you get the satisfactions.
Jesus Loves you.
2007-01-21 01:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's comfortable with you, that's why. He knows he can get it whenever he wants so the same urgency isn't there. I wouldn't take it personally, or as if he doesn't find you as attractive. Contrary to popular belief, men do like to settle down into a routine, they do like to feel safe, and they do get tired of having to chase around for sex.
2007-01-18 12:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a lot more than sex in a relationship. you dont need to have sex every day. maybe he is tired. a little hint - if you go longer between times - it can make sex a lot better
2007-01-18 12:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by kd baby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sex every day will never happen..i mean be happy you have sex 3 days in a row..and get 3 days off...your sex life is great..there is nothing wrong with you or him, you have nothing to worry about. congrats on the wedding!
2007-01-18 12:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by mizzms 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
will at less you are haveing sex i,m marryed and all my wife and i only do for play, we never has sex
2007-01-18 12:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is what it is... I'm similar and can relate... we kinda get into "work mode" and that's where our focus lies... it's definitely a guy thing... Trust me, it's not you...
2007-01-18 12:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by gjm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋