Ok, so I told my friend with benefits of 6 monthst that I thought we shouldn't have the benefits anymore. I talked to him on the phone because we work different shifts and I felt I needed to get it off my chest. His response was that he would call me later and we would talk about it. Well, we were very close and talked all the time and texted each other all day long. i have not heard anything from him at all since I told him. I still want to be his friend, but I do not want him to think I am going back on what I told him. I felt I had to stop the benefits because I was getting too attached and basically acting as a girlfriend to him without any benefits to me, all the benefits were going to him and I wasn't getting any emotional support at all. And he was extremely jealous of me talking to any other guys, but when he would talk to other girls he would make me feel like I had no right to get upset. Should I wait for him to call me or should I open the communication line back up?
2007-01-18 04:33:26 · 15 answers · asked by kristinna22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way- he never called me like he said he was going to, so I didn't get to fully explain myself. Does it seem like this is a game to anyone else? Like he is waiting for me to contact him so he can have control again?
2007-01-18 05:29:48 · update #1
WAIT! this is your chance to see if he's really worth it. If he doesn't call you back.. that just means that all he ever really wanted you for was the benefits and the friendship means nothing to him.
why call him back and miss that opportunity to find out if he's your real friend? If he's not... why waste your time?
in this situation... you've got to think with your head... not your heart...
2007-01-18 04:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by whateva 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the guy REALLY cared for you, and loved (?) you, he would have called by now...he got what he wanted, and now that he thinks he can't have it, he's gonna move on...he's a "dog" and a jerk...he was never a good friend to you..on the deeper level you think you had...
Remember that your body is your gift...be careful who you give it too...and wait for someone who will want to get to know the real "you" before hopping into bed....
This trend of "friends with benefits" is about the worst thing I've heard of these days when it comes to relationships...it doesn't work...it never has and never will...someone ALWAYS ends up getting emotionally attached...and it's rarely both partners...
If you must get those feelings out...write him a letter...but do NOT mail it...keep it to read back to yourself later...getting it off your chest will help, not mailing it will let you keep your dignity, and reading it later will put things in perspective...
2007-01-18 04:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Has He Told You Since You Told Him That You 2 Should Stop The Friends With Benefits Thing
2007-01-18 04:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by maryland212202003 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest when you see him again you tell him how you really feel about him. Talk to him and ask why he didn't call you back. Try to work things out by sitting and having a long talk about what has been going on. Then tell him how you felt about him doing this to you. If he says he has no interest in you just move on to another guy.
2007-01-18 04:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to call you. you were right to stop the benefits, if he wants to be possessive and jealous of you then he needs to do some things for you and this is a good step. if he only wants you for benefits then its good way to found out now what his true intent is.
2007-01-18 04:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by boobooaini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, in my humble opinion, I think you should let it go. The fact that he got jealous with you talking to other guys shows me that he has a double standard. Cut your losses and move on. If he's any kind of friend he'll realize his error and make amends. If not, it wasn't meant to be.
2007-01-18 04:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shadoesmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships like that never work, you broke off what he wanted from you and now he's done with you, why do you think he hasn't called? Sorry honey he isn't gonna call he's gonna find someone else.
2007-01-18 04:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by The_Game 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call him and tell him exactly what you just said to us. It sounds like you guys might end up dating for real. You really like each other and if you value your friend ship you should call him. I think he is just probablly hurt becuase of the rejection and that is why he hasnt called.
2007-01-18 04:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always say it when you cross the lines of friendship to friends with benefits theirs no going back to be friends you just lost a friend girl live with it....
2007-01-18 04:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by lala diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First rule of EVERYTHING is - NEVER CALL THEM.
Besides he does sound like a bit of a twerp anyway, you're much better off without him.
2007-01-18 04:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Spev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋