This girl who is supposed to be my friend has turned on me and is really bullying me in a non obvious way, I still have friends and everything but she is really making my life hell because she says upsetting stuff to me and i get upset and angry and take it out on my family.. what do i do
2007-01-18 04:32:15 · 16 answers · asked by SeaSide,x 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It seems to me that her problem is with herself. If she needs to bully others and put them down it is only because she dislikes herself.
Don't get pulled into her negative outlook on life. She can only hurt you if you allow it.
Maybe the best thing to do would be to just ignore her and be nice to yourself. Don't let her undermining you make you lose confidence in yourself.
Increase your self-esteem and she won't be able to touch you at all!
Expressions of anger come from a feeling of loss of power. Take back your power over yourself and you'll see how your anger disappears. It might also be a good idea to let your family know why you are so ratty and I bet you they'll help you through it. At least by understanding why you are behaving as you are, they might at least not give your bursts of anger too much importance and even help you get over it.
Good luck.
p.s. That is not what I call a friend - you can well do without people like that in your life.
Hope this helped.
2007-01-18 07:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi I'm sorry to hear your being bullied. Is the girl yr talking about really a friend or a person who is in your circle of friends. You do have a choice. You dont have to be friendly with her, you can be polite, but why put up with the bullying. If your feeling strong enough tell her straight. She knows she can talk to you anyway she wants because she gets a reaction but if you say nothing and walk away she'll get fed up. As for your family, tell them, be honest. They will be able to help you and you wont be feeling so frustrated and getting annoyed. Hope this helps.
2007-01-18 12:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by tuttifrutti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That, my dear is what we call a BACKSTABBER. My sister had an experience like that a while back, a girl at school she loved to death and wouldn't accept the warnings we gave as to how horrible a person she really was ... a month later, the friend turned and became a complete *****.
Tell this girl to get OUT of your life, LEAVE you alone. If it doesn't work and things become worse, have some extra help from the principal or guidance counselor at your school to stop her from harassing you.
Good luck.
2007-01-18 12:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like SHE is the one with major problems.
I should avoid contact with her as much as is possible at present. Can you talk to your family, rather then get cross and taking it out on them. I am sure they would prefer that.
Is there a teacher (I am assuming you are at school - if not a manager) of whom you can confide in, who may be able to support you and your friend. Good luck!
2007-01-18 13:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to an adult about this and have this matter sorted out as quickly as possible, im a girl and i can say girls are bitches. It will get worse if you don't have ot stopped now, she will be using violence next and you diffentaly don't want that, Talk to someone please, too many people get bullied, and its time for it to stop!!!
2007-01-18 12:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by TTC #1 With PCOS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to talk with your family members. They all need to know what is going on with you. They can help you. Also speak with this girl who is tormenting you ask her to stop or else. Good Luck and God Bless You!!!
2007-01-18 13:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by girlpowerart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing her, she is poison. Tell her you don't need a friend like her in your life and that you are going to be much better off without her. Then get on with being fabulous.
2007-01-18 12:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that she is not being like a true friend should be like...then walk away from her
2007-01-18 12:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by bananacompanion535 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn the meaning of friends ,first
2007-01-18 12:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by catturi_paredes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is hard.
bullies are cowards themselves,so surprise her by acting sorry for her or even being nice to her.prob best to stay well away though.
2007-01-18 12:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋