He says he is not ready for a relationship but would like for us to be friends. I am in love with him. We have battled with this an entire year now. What's the best thing for me to do, you feel? Stick around strictly as a friend, and be there for him, or let go of him completely? Or take a break--and how long? What would you do. Any other suggestions? I am in lots of pain...:( Plus, a part of me wants to keep hoping that things will turn around.
2007-01-18 04:26:57 · 17 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also want to add that he has agreed to having feelings, but he says, it is not at the same intensity as mine, and is unable to match it, or handle it. So it looks like there is still possible hope, if he already has some feelings?
Guys...what shd I be doing? :(
2007-01-18 04:28:52 · update #1
He is not ready for the relationship you want. You need to find a relationship that gives u happiness Continue dating him, but also date others, too. Let him know what you are doing. He will either come around our you will find a guy ready for a more serious relationship. This way...He won't feel like you are nagging. But if he does have feelings, he will have a sense of urgency. Good luck.
HINT: Don't be too available. Let him know that you are serious about finding a relationship that is right for you.
I hope it all works out. jason
2007-01-18 04:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Magic Mouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like you are liking someone too much because he said he can't handle it and also he might now be ready for a committed relationship with you. You should stick around with him as friends if that what he wants and you shouldn't pressure he into being with you cuz i did the same thing with my EX, see I said ex and not boyfriend because he broke up with because i was pressuring he too much. It is best to be friends first any ways because then you get to really know a person then and see if you still want to be with that person.
Dont stop being friends with him, but stop getting close because it seems like you are getting really close to him. Try not to get to close because you are going to get hurt in the end
2007-01-18 12:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality Check...in a selfish way, it is quite possible that he is telling you he has feelings for you to soften the blow....He probably only sees you as a friend. The bad thing for you, you keep out hope and get hurt even worse later. You stick around hoping for a turn around and eventually he will find someone he would like to date and you are going to have to watch that from the friend perspective. Bad situation. I know it isnt what you want to hear but, move on, quit wasting your time and find someone who will love you and as much as you love them....
2007-01-18 12:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by krstylyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I met my husband I told him I loved him after 3 mos. He did not feel the same way & we stopped seeing each other. I did not call him - it was the hardest thing I've ever done but it made me feel better just to know that he knew how i felt & that I put it out there. The ball was in his court & like I said we are now happily married with 2 children...you have to give him his space - just like the saying goes If you love something set it free, if it comes back it was meant to be if not, it was never really yours to begin with.
2007-01-18 12:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by vogue69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey....let him go. If you stick with him (even as a friend) you will always hold onto hope that one day it might be more which he cannot promise you. There are so many more out there. One who will love you as much as you love him in return. If you truly are meant to be, then when the time is right he will come back to you. Who knows...you might be the one to blow him off!
Good luck!
2007-01-18 12:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'm kind of in the same boat... I would say it would be best to leave it as it be. If he says he's not ready for relationship, then move on. You deserve to be happy and not to be sticking around with a jerk like him. Have you ever read He's not that into you book. I cant remember the author's name.
2007-01-18 12:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN the OTHER WAY...Hon, he is just not that in to you...probably never will be....put yourself in his shoes...would you want a guy hanging all over you if you really didn't feel much for him? Let him go....it's old and a cliche, but if it was meant to be it will.....since you say you are in "love" with him, then it will be impossible to be "friends"...when he finds someone else, you will be hurt. And you are closing yourself off to the prospect of meeting your real soulmate....I know it's tough...been there many times myself....but I want a guy (and I now have one!) that wants me......spend your efforts on someone who will really appreciate you...
2007-01-18 12:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give him a couple of days. If he doesn't come around just move on. It's not worth it just to sit around and hope that he will end up wanting to date you. If you do that you might end up not getting a chance to meet other guys! So, just let him go.
2007-01-18 12:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a clue.Stay friends if you want because he sounds like an honest guy but he is not interested in you like that.Maybe its not you,,he just doesnt want a relationship right now.Stop dwelling on him & wrapping your life around him.Dont put yourself through all that drama. Date other guys,,spend time with friends,,develope other interests in your life.
2007-01-18 12:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got it. You should stick to being friends, and have feelings all you want to. Maybe you'll find a different boy in the long run, but right now, whatever you do, DON"T LET GO JUST YET!!!!!!!
2007-01-18 12:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋