We do not know what is wrong with her..She is sick in the mind i can't even get her to go to the dr's and say yes something is wrong..She thinks people are talking about her, she is talking about her family,she is in a good mood and bam a bad mood and nothing happend..She is always macking thinkings up in her mind and she lie's and b/c of her lieing so much she belive them herself...How can u help someone if they will not help them self?
I am only 21 and idk what to do for her... ;-/ i don't have anyone to talk about this to that is why i am here..
2007-01-18 04:26:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We give her time to ehrself and she gets mad,, we spend time with her and she get mad.. she gets mad about everything..
2007-01-18 04:33:31 · update #1
sweetie, first thank you for giving more info., i know this is so hard for you, and i am so sorry. just from reading your question, it sounds like she may have paraniod schizophrenia. this is a mental disorder that there are many medications for, but at times there are mental disorders that memic medical problems such as low sodium, low potassium ect..most people will never get well unless treated by a dr. since you are 21 if she will not go to a dr. you will need to take the nessary steps to get her to a hospital to have test run. since she is not complint, you may need to call an ambulance to get her there. your mother despertly needs help sweet, she could be a danger to you or herself , but with the right meds. she could be well again very soon, as hard as it may be you are going to need to override her and get her the help she needs. it seems she is so sick that she may not even know that she needs help. so it is up to you to do this ok. sweetie i wish you the best of luck and will be praying for you and your mother. GOD BLESS.
2007-01-18 04:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by reann4239 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard--okay, basically impossible--to really help someone who won't let you help them. My mother is like what you described, and she won't get help either. It doesn't sound like she has a medical problem that a doctor could fix--she would need to get into therapy (if this is a constant problem, and not just something that happens once every month or two). The only medical problem that I can think it might be would be bipolar, a psychiatric disorder that can be improved with medication. But it's also likely that she has a personality disorder, like borderline personality disorder. Those can only be improved through therapy. Or she may just be going through some emotional mix-up right now that's temporary and will improve over time.
At any rate, whatever the problem, there's not really anything you can do to fix her. Instead, focus on helping yourself to stay strong in this situation. You mentioned that you don't have anyone to talk to about this, and that's tough. Really tough--I've been there. I know it's hard, but it's important that you get support and find someone you can trust. Don't be so afraid that you stay silent--most people have someone weird/crazy in their family and will understand at least some of what you're dealing with. That will help you feel less stressed. If this is really getting to you, consider seeing a therapist to help figure out how to deal with this relationship--that's something I do with regard to my mom. Remember: she's a grown woman (I'm assuming) and is not your responsibility. So if she's hurting you, take some time off from her for yourself. Get some space. Go hang out with friends, go play video games, do whatever. Don't feel like you need to stay with her--she's not dying, and staying with her constantly won't help anyone or anything. If she's saying mean things to you, don't let yourself stand there and take it. Walk away. There's nothing you can do to put her in a good or bad mood, so try to distance yourself from her mood swings. Don't deny that they're happening, but don't get really emotionally involved. Like with my mom, when her mood changes, now I just go, "Look, it happened again, what do you know?" (to myself, not out loud)--she's predictably unpredictable, if you know what I mean.
Most important: take care of yourself, and get some space. You deserve it.
Hope that helps, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with that.
2007-01-18 04:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by kacey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely need to get her to a doctor...have her medically checked in order to rule out any deficiency...if everything is okay in that area (physical health) then next step would be to get her to a therapist (find a good one in your area...you may have to try out a few of them to see which one seems best for your needs) is this your mother or daughter or sister we are talking about here??
I agree with the person who says even if it means calling an ambulance to get her to the doctor to get the check up.
2007-01-18 05:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by heidi6971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep trying..Do what u think is best for you and your family..
it is a sad spot u are in don't give up ..~!!
good luck~
2007-01-18 04:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by animal lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she proably need someone to talk to her about her problems or just need time to herself
2007-01-18 04:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by mercedes m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SHE NEEDS SOME MEDICAL INTERVENTION
THEY CALL ME DRz
2007-01-18 04:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by drzthephotoman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋