Me and the mother of my child cannot work our relationship out after trying several times to do so and i am prepering for life without my child and only seeing it on a weekend, My question is Can i still be a good dad to my child without being there full time?
2007-01-18 04:24:40 · 8 answers · asked by Simon T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I've been in the exact situation you describe for 3 years now and yes you can. It's not the quantity of time you spend with your child, but the quality of the time you spend together. Make sure you show up for all the school functions, sporting events, etc. Make sure your child knows how much you really love and care about them. Be sure to do fun kid things when the two of you are together. Talk to the child every night on the phone. You may not be able to be there in person, but you can be there in spirit.
2007-01-18 04:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you have a good marriage with a wife if you only saw "IT" on the weekend? Would you still have a job if you only showed up on the weekend?
You can be a good dad, but you won't be as close. And when your ex finds a new guy and moves in with him, he'll be more of a dad to your child than you. And, chances are, a meaner one.
Kids always get the raw end of the deal when adults make their decisions. I'm sorry you're in this position. My heart aches for you.
2007-01-18 05:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Margie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah but when u have been a cheat nd a liar.What would you do???Do u deserve to be a father to your child cause i dont think ur fit enough to be a father to your child.Simon your still a little boy who like fast cars,weekends out and lasses in bed.Sorry but our child is not having a father figure like you.You walked out once and now where walking away from you.Don't act like your the good person in all this because your not bet ya mum would love to know what u were doing yesterday afternoon.
2007-01-19 02:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lesa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can!
Having separated parents is difficult for any child and there's nothing we can really do but be there for them and let them know how much we love them.
However you can't forget that you are the parent as well as your child's friend. Keep the rules set and firm to keep him/her safe. I know it's hard to be strict when you know your time with your child is limited but remember even being part-time...you are your child's role model. So even when things get tough you need to remember, "Everything you do...your child sees and learns!" Try to keep good communication with the other parent. I know it can be hard to do but making sure to keep that stability and routine is very important! And fighting between parents is much harder on the child than on the two of you.
I can see that you have the want to be a good parent that's the 1st step. I'm sure you'll do just fine and raise a good kid!
Good luck! :)
2007-01-18 05:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy of 2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can, just remember to put aside your personal feelings of hurt and disappointment and other negative feelings that you may harbor towards your soon to be ex and focus on the child and their physical, emotional and mental needs and make sure that they are being met. Do not make the mistake of running your own agenda in regards to this situation, keep the child in the for-front of your mind and make sure all of your decisions are made in favor of the child. Make an effort everyday to assure that your child in no way feels put in the middle and it is in no way his/her fault, they have a way of placing blame on them for what happens in this type of situation. It may also help if you and your soon to be ex, sit down and (age appropriately) talk to your child and explain that mommy and daddy are going to be living in different homes and that doest;t mean that they are going to stop loving him/her. Make it a positive conversation, make it something that is not terrible, let him/her see you all getting along and agree on things in front of the child. Keep the bickering to private times when the child is not around. maybe even some counseling for all of you may be good as well, together or separate. Good Luck.
2007-01-18 04:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any dad is better than no dad.
You can possible work out a custody deal where you get the child over the summer when school is out or something like that. Ive seen many cases like that over the years.
Get a good lawyer and strive to get as much visitation right as possible.
2007-01-18 04:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes you can be. My boyfriend is divorced and has a 9 year old daughter. He is an amazing father. He sees her every single week, picks her up from school if she wants to, and would lay down his life for her. She is her daddy's little girl and the light of his life.
2007-01-18 05:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are financially supporting your child and there on you scheduled visits then you can still be a great dad, me and my fathers dad are apart and though I may think he's a butt head he's a great dad to her and is there when ever she needs him
2007-01-18 04:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋