I recently asked out a girl, and well i got turned down, before it we were good friends but not close u know? Sooo after it became sooo weird and awkward and stuff. Soo a month n a half later, she tells one of my friends tht shes sick of things being sooo awkward between us and wants everythin to go back to normal n being friends again, she hates the awkwardness between us and I as well. My question to u ladies are....If u rejected a guy, well y do u guys care about being friends with em if u rejected em as being more thn friends, i mean u rejected the guy for god sakes...Y do u girls do this?? Answer ASAP ;)
2007-01-18 04:19:49 · 27 answers · asked by PRINCE24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay its just that you and her have different thinkers. You like her but she rather be friend with you. As long she did answer your question. Just try your best to forget what happaned in the past. Go to her and tell her that you want to be friends with her again, from there it will normal. Now why did we do that? It just that some guys are not our types, we are not ready, etc. We have to tell yes or no than just hold it in the mouth and walk away, no. Face it everyday whatever you don't like that. Sorry about that.
2007-01-18 04:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the big differences between guys and girls. Girls have friends of the opposite sex and are happy just being friends. Guys normally only become friends with girls hoping that it will become something more. If guys and girls would realize this difference, there would be a lot less people getting their feelings hurt.
I've been in your situation before, and unless you really care for this girl I would say end the friendship. You are always going to wish it was something more and she will never let it go there. If you can handle that then stay friends with her, if not let it go.
2007-01-18 04:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by boredatwork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weird question i gotto say. It is very simple and more common sense but if she cared for you and liked you as a friend why not keep a friend. It is not her fault that you couldnt be her friend for too long and had to tak that step to ask her out. She want you as a friend not a lover so why it is such a big deal if she wanting to be your freind care about you being friends. It aint like she gave you hints on being more then friends and you asked her out and she rejected you. I dont get it.....whats up with this whole WHY DO YOU GIRLS DO THIS? Do freakin what? Trying to get back a friend that you was friend with in a first place? Doesnt make too much sense to me. Why freakin not? It aint her fault that you didnt see her as a friend all this time but was hiding it until you popped out the question.....Just think about and please for God's sake stop using this whole WHY DO YOU GIRL DO THIS OR THAT..... any freakin normal person whithin a gender difference would do somthing like that, not just GIRLLLSS...! duh
2007-01-18 04:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it have to be all or nothing? Haven't you ever had a friend of the opposite sex - JUST A FRIEND?
The problem is that once you open that box and let your friend know that you want more, you can never go back to being just friends because there will always be an awkward air between you two.
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2007-01-18 04:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just because she doesn't care for you in an intement way doesn't mean she doesnt care for you altogether. You just need to accept the fact that her feelings for you will not go any further than friendship and respect her decision. Stop acting funny towards her, you knew the risks of asking a friend out before you done it, so you should accept the 'rejection' and return back to you guys previous state as friends- and dont act funny!
2007-01-18 04:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she doesn't want to lose the friendship you both once shared. This is why alot won't date "friends" because they are scared it will ruin the "friendship" they have together if things don't work out and alot don't see "friends" as anything more. Don't take it personally. It's obvious she still cares about you. Give her a call and let her know your still good friends. Good Luck
2007-01-18 04:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a world of difference between a bf and a friend.
Just because I like to have a spirited discussion with a buddy does not mean I then want to kiss him goodnight.
She likes you as a friend and wants to keep your relationship at that level. Be her friend, maybe at some future date she'll look at you in a new way. Just don't wait for it.
2007-01-18 04:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times we are scared that we might ruin the friendship. Also at times we might not be attracted to the person in that way. I am sure there is a reason on to why she said no. In due time things will go back to normal between the two of you.
2007-01-18 04:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are like a close sister to her and when you wanted to be romantic with her well think of a sister trying to be romantic with her sister... kind of creepy right? of coarse it would be akward for a while.
But she doesn't want to loose her sister to such a situation.
She has put you into the NO SEX category go be her best girl friend cause you won't be getting laid anytime soon. And btw all her friends know you are like a sister to her so don't expect to hook up with them either.
2007-01-18 04:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Willie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she isn't interested in dating you doesn't mean that she doesn't want to be friends with you. When I was in my teens, there was this guy that I had been friends with for years, and he started asking me out. I told him that he was like a brother to me, and knew way too much about me for us to ever date. He didn't take it as a blow to his ego as so many guys do. That was 25 yrs ago and he's still one of my best friends.
2007-01-18 04:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by curiousnktown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋