I have been hook up buddies with this guy for 6 months now. We are really close and like each others company. I know guys like the chase and I don't give that to him. When he asks me to come over I do. I am not going to play games...I like his company. But all my friedns say its a bad idea and I am going to get hurt if i keep hooking up with him. I always try to walk away and find someone who cares for me as much as I care for him. But I always end up going back to him.....how do I move on? How to do I make myself realize I am going to be the one hurt in the end?
2007-01-18 04:14:42 · 18 answers · asked by Sam s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sam, what is the single most attractive thing that you find this guy has for you?
That is what you need to look for in other men. It will make moving on so much easier.
2007-01-18 04:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive just been there after five months I told him how I felt. i couldnt handle the not knowing, waiting on calls and the mind games. he told me he didnt want anything serious and i ended it. Cant get him out of my head, but why go through more mental torture.
My advise is tell him how you feel and you might be plesently surprised and if he doesnt feel the same well at least you know and you can then make a decision as to what to do......which for your own sanity I would advise end it. I am sure there is someone better out there for you if this is the case and while your with Mr wrong you cant find Mr Right......... Im still searching for my Mr Right and meanwhile Ill stay single and try and build on the old self esteem. Good luck
2007-01-19 02:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by akaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are one like me. I had this for many years, it was so hard to let him go. Now do you have fun with him whatever you guys doing? if so, keep that, as long he keep you enjoy. And try go out as much you can to meet more guys and one of them ask you out then you will fall in love. means you had to let that guy you were been hooking up. It works. If you really like him a lot, why dont you ask him about it and tell him the truth how you feel. You won't feel hurt in the end because you should know the truth by now.
2007-01-18 04:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hows does that "WHAT IF" thought make you feel about him hurting you? Pretty lousy doesn't it. You have to let go of that thought all together and learn to trust or it is going to destroy something your not sure of....Life is about taking risks. If you don't take the risk you may never know what will happen. However if your gut is telling you to be cautions or it doesn't feel right then you have to listen to it or you will be hurt by jeopardizing it on your own doing from having these negative feelings all the time and your Gard will always beup in this relationship.. Either way it is not going to feel good. But we should take these experiences in life and turn them in to a positive by learning and growing from them. You cant assume the worse and predict something you don't know for sure.You need to let go of the "WHAT IF"so you can feel good inside again and move on OR let go of the "WHAT IF" and take the risk and see what happens.....Only you can make this choice for yourself.
2007-01-18 04:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes married stay clear you are not only gonna be hurt but think of the commited wife and the inoccent kids dont be a home wrecker no one wins whatever god brings together let no man nor woman tear apart if hes involved i hate to be you how would you like to be cheated on put youreself in the other womans shoes and if hes cheating on her then hell cheat on youwhat comes around goes around very true if hes not then whats stoping you think not with youre heart or head but intuin
2007-01-18 04:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by april h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should walk away and never look back before you get hurt. Stay occupied if you cant keep your mind off of him, but relationships like this are not healthy. You are giving him permission to just have you whenever he wants and it shouldnt work like that
2007-01-18 04:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yor are going to be hurt in the end and that is the sad truth and you do realize this but you probably keep going back to the guy coz you just hate to be by urself and you are willing to take the littlest that he can give you. i would suggest you go out more and meet new people.
2007-01-18 04:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by snowflakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can imagine a life without him, then you'll be metally prepared for that time when it comes.
It will be what you expected. In the meantime, enjoy the ride. It could last longer than expected.
2007-01-18 04:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he does not respect you and he treats you like dirt then you gots to move on. get a new boyfriend and maybe he willcare for you you got to move on now the are lots of fish in the sea.
2007-01-18 04:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all know moving on is the toughest thing to do... but are you just gonna quit even the game has'nt started yet? why dont you just try to enjoy his company for a little while until you find sumone who will care and love you... and you will never know... wut if he likes you too? he's just too scared to admit it.. we will never find happines if were not gonna take the risk.. ^.~ maybe he's worth it...
2007-01-18 04:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋