would you tell your boss you're attracted to her??

Question

my boss and i have become friends thru work. she is leaving for a different shift at the same place of business in a few weeks. we talk after work everyday, send emails & texts to eachother, tell one another how beautiful and special the other one is, flirt, etc... im very attracted to her and have very deep feelings for her. she knows i love her but i think she thinks only as a friend. she is married to a man who has cheated on her numerous times and only lives with him as roommates for the sake of the kids. what would you do? tell and see what her reaction is or not tell and leave well enough alone.

Answer 1

ouch.
That's a toughie!
Alright here goes.

Your boss is definately attracted to you, women rarely spend time sending text messages, flirting and talking to a subordinate after work unless they enjoy doing so.
And you say she's aware of how you feel about her.Though she doesnt seem to be making much of a move on it.
She's married, has kids, ring any bells?
Women who've been married have high expectations, you're going to have to be everything her husband wasn't.Do you understand that.And the worst part is, she's living with her husband, she;s got responsibilities, think about it, do you really think she'd take the chance dating at the moment?

Doubt it, and she's an educated woman.Work place relationships get very sticky after breakups, business becomes emotional and that probably just distract you both.

Now you know the consquences of your actions if things go wronnggg.heres what I say.
Heck, go for it anyway! You love her? Wow, takes a lot of gutts to admit that, dont you think?
You love this married woman, with kids, living with her cheating husband and she;s your boss.She must mean a lot to you, right.
So why ask me? Ask yourself.
Only thing is, you have to be prepared.
Prepared if things go downhill.
and if you are.
Boy, then you better tell her what she needs to know.

GOOD LUCK! seriously!
RAVE

Answer 2

Double whammy. First, you work together. The potential for breakup and the subsequent misery in the workplace should be enough to keep you from going after this chick. Second, the fact that one (or possibly both?) of you are already married compounds the likelihood that this will not last very long if you do hook up. If you are really serious about this girl and her marriage really is just window dressing, then encourage her to end her marriage. It really doesn't help the kids. Kids aren't stupid. They know when there is tension, discord, and a lack of love in their household. If leaving her husband isn't the right thing for her to do, then move on. You can't trust a cheater even if they are cheating with you. Then again, if the sanctity of marriage means nothing to you, and you are just looking to tear a piece off on the side, then tell her. If, however, you are bound by some moral code, then wait for her to divorce her husband. That will show her that you intend to lay the foundation for a loving, trusting, lifelong relationship.

Answer 3

this is a hard one to answer. It going to depend on how you too really do feel for each other. I have been there and chickend out never said nothing and kind of regreat it because there could of been something but at the same time it is work and I have kid's which I didn't want to go there . If you feel there is something then I would say go for it but be carefull i don't want to see you get hurt. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 4

It actually sounds like the attraction could be mutual, and at 49 years old he has probably already learned how to read the body language that says you are attracted to him. What is more important(in my opinion) is to see if you two are on the same level, because obviously he is drawn to you too, or else he would not be taking you to movies and buying things for your son, text messaging you, etc! BUT, to be honest and frank, at 49 years old, he is old enough to be your "dad". So is he treating you like a surrogate daughter, and your son like a grandson? Or is he seeing you as an equal, and a mature woman and potential mate? If taking you to movies and buying your son gifts, texting, etc, has not "ruined" your working relationship already, then personally I think honesty will not ruin it either. So if you are prepared for the consequences, good or bad, go to dinner with him...and just tell him how you feel.

Answer 5

Well,i think you must wait for that perfect moment.Till that moment comes make her more comfortable whenever you are with her make her feel more special,don't just flirt do something which would make her feel that she is special for you.When the perfect moment comes(you will get to know it),pop out the question.I think she would say yes,but don't hurry up keep your calm.Best of luck!

Answer 6

I told my boss and it turned out she was attracted to me too. We are both married to other people but we are going to try and have a foursome if our "others" will go along with it.

My boss is Bi and has always had a thing for my wife too.

Answer 7

Invite her out ... don't call it a "date" .. but really that is what it will be. See where it goes from there.

Answer 8

If you are going to be working for the same company, I think you should just stay friends. Unless you think you are going to spend the rest of your life together, it will be very awkward at work when you break up.

Answer 9

I dont know? Thats a tricky question. Maybe she is just confiding in you. If you cant give her what he does, shes probably just finding it hard to leave becasue she has so many nice things with him.

Answer 10

yh go ahead tell her how u feel u cant let ur feelins pile up but always be ready 4 the rejection ok dont go in heart first kk MAY THE FORCE BE WITH U