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i've always been an introverted person... quite fearful of the big world wide and members of my family were depleting my self confidence by pointing out my flaws and all of that! i was always doing things with my sister.. like same class, same friends, same everything! she used to tease me and say that i couldn't live without her, she was tired of carrying me on her shoulders and telling me i had no friends etc.two yrs ago i decided i wanted to move from london to ny and my sister said she too wanted to come along so she did!she made it seem as though it was her idea and made my life a misery with her unkind comments! during that time i met a very nice lady with whom i begun leaving with, which meant my sister had to live with her bf. after a while my sister moved back to london and said she preferred it to ny! ever since she left i have grown immensely and have made my own friends and i'm alot more assertive and confident! i'm still leaving with the nice lady and she loves me as her own.. only problem is that sense a bitterness from my family... no matter what i do right they always try to make fun of me of point out something that is not so good.. everyone is aways asking if me and the nice lady are still geting along after two yrs leaving together, people spread hurtful rumours that am pregnant, when its not true, they try to turn my friend and i against each other! this is coming from some members of my fam and so called friends. this has been the happiest i've ever been and find tht people are not content with that! why are they always trying to find fault with me instead of being happy for me and appreciating me for who i am?

Answer 1

Family traditions have been problem sometimes. If you are happy, just tell them that you are really happy.

Answer 2

Okay, first I'll give the benefit of the doubt to your insulters...

Are they really insulting you (Example: Your lady is a damn bloody stupid idiot. Sorry, no offence meant ^^".) or are they giving hard advice in a harsh way which makes you think that they're insulting you? (Example: You are dating the wrong lady. This advice might be actual truth, their own opinion or just lies) You have to come to your own conclusions about these insults. Do be careful, because you might intepret them the wrong way. Also, do not lie to yourself. If it's clear, then it's clear. There's no need to walk circles around it. Hope you get the idea of what I'm saying ^^".

However, if it's clear the insults are definitely untrue and unprovoked, then please get rid of these 'so-called friends', because they'll only make you unhappy. If you think that you might hurt them or get yourself into trouble, please remember that it's very draining to pretend to be friends with someone you don't like. Just communicate with them as little as possible and they'll gradually drift away.

As for your certain family members who always find fault with you... Well, sometimes people have very high expectations. You are proud of the person you are now, so if it's any immediate family members or close relatives (whom you respect and will actually like if they weren't always insulting you) who is always finding fault with you, tell them... That you're working hard to live the life you want to live. The result might not necessarily please them... But to you it will be your proudest moment. So you hope they will not insult you.. Or pass sentence on what you do, nor dictate how you live your life... Because you will decide how you will live it, in the way that will bring joy to you and others. The YOU part is important, okay?

After that, just listen to any useful advice and take the unuseful advice with a pinch of salt, and just turn a deaf ear to blabbering idiots.

It's nice to hear that you're finally stepping out of other's shadow to live your own life ^^. Nice one, heads up!

Answer 3

your family believed you to be weak. and made you feel that way. when you finally realized that you werent, they couldnt take it. honestly i cant really give you the right answer as to why your family and friends treated you this way. sometimes the weakest link is easy target. you can go to a phsycologist and ask her/him about this. they will surely have an answer. meanwhile, i would write my family a letter, (thats a way they cant interrupt what your going to say) and tell them everything. how you felt, how you feel now. let them know that even though they are your family and and you love them, you dont need them. you have succeeded on you own which is what they always wanted, right? and just let them know how they're bad behavior is not gonna affect you. and just go on living you life and finding happiness.

Answer 4

Dont worry about what they say, all anyone wants to be is happy and you have found happiness, so nothig else matters. You do have to love them because they are your family and deal with them but you dont have to take their b.s. so if they are doing more hurt than harm, then limit your dealings with them.
good for you with your growth and continue on!

Answer 5

Who are you? you ask your someone in the world that had it a little hard.Like most people.

Your happy now and someone is happy with you.

Your family will always be your family that will not change.
Be happy for yourself right now.You have nothing to prove in this life.When you see your family be polite,smile
and wish them well.They expect you to react,they are used to you reacting .Be happy for yourself ,appreciate your self for who you are.Just because they are family they are not born perfect.
Be grateful and happy.

Answer 6

I would speak to everybody to see what their problem is. If you don't want confrontation let them be sounds like they are all jealous of your happiness and have nothing else to do.

Answer 7

Good luck.