I snooped in my bf phone like i always do and a girl was in his messages. She was trying to get him to come over and see her. He didn't tell her no but made some lame excuses. He has many friends that are girls and I've heard this girls name before so she is a friend, but this bothers me. I snoop in his phone all the time and never had a prob with anything else. I don't snoop because I don't trust him cause I do, I'm just nosy. What do you think? We have an awesome relationship and he just proposed to me a few weeks ago. What do you think of the messages? What should I do? I can't let him know I snooped so I can't ask him about it.
2007-01-18 04:02:58 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously you don't trust him, otherwise you wouldn't make excuses for "snooping" I think you're pretty safe if he just proposed to you. Guy's are allowed to have friends, if it bothers you that much I would suggest confronting the issue sooner rather than later. Ask how important you are to him compared to his other Friends. But I think we both already know the answer to that question.
2007-01-18 04:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Diamond24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's making excuses and that's a good thing for him to do wouldn't you agree.
You're getting jealous of her but the whole reason you're getting jealous is because you snooped in the first place. That will teach you not to snoop. I mean no offense but you deserve it. Sounds like your boyfriend is handling it just fine but you snooped.
If you love your boyfriend, leave it alone and totally forget that you EVER saw it. Talk it over with your boyfriend cause without talk there can be no trust and without trust, the two of you are bound to become another statistic.
2007-01-18 12:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not confess to him that you snooped, just let it be the past and never do it again next time. If you get caught, something bad will happen. You should have at least asked him if you can check his phone, it's respect. The best way is to go to talk to him about your worries or just make jokes about if he is cheating on you or something like that. Stop being paranoid alone and do silly and risky things, it only helps you lose him.
2007-01-18 12:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by å°»? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, QUIT SNOOPING! It's very disrespectful. I understand that you like to be "in the know" about stuff, but there are other ways of gathering info. You need to trust him if the relationship is going to last. Quit being so nosy.
As for what to do about what you saw, I'd say you need to trust your instincts. If it seems innocent, it probably is. If you have a feeling that something is going on, however, trust your gut. It's rarely wrong.
2007-01-18 12:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have a boyfriend with MANY girls that claim to be his friends. Do you know this friend? Because if you are going to marry him, you might want to meet these girls. Also, he may know that this girl is still interested in him and his lame excuses were his way of getting around hurting her. Some guys would rather avoid drama, than just deal with it. If he does visit her it should not be at her residence, so maybe you could suggest the two of you and her, along with other friends, meet out to celebrate your engagement, that way he gets out of his bad situation and you can show off how much he loves you.
Me, after two years, no where near a ring of any sorts.
2007-01-18 12:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by casady96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made this problem for yourself and now you have to live with it. You say you trust him but are just nosy. You need to get real. It is obvious you don't trust him at all to spy on him. If you did trust him you would not be worried.
I hope this teaches you a lesson to mind your own business and not to snoop.
2007-01-18 12:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being that he told her no is a good thing,but how many times have a message like this poped up in his phone? with out you knowing and him saying yes, That's something you should think about. From what your saying he seems like a nice guy,but inorder for you know the answer of your question/s i think it would be best if you confess to him and let him know what you did,because curiosity will only hurt you its best to know the truth. I mean in some shape or form ask him nicely dont be to hard on him because then he can flip the script on you and say why were you in my phone? dont want that to happen and plus you want to make sure he is the right guy to marry good luck sista!!!
2007-01-18 12:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by yaya t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all you really shouldnt be snooping. secondly it is his right to have a girl as a friend. if your uneasy about the situation ask him How close he is with his girlfriends and tell him you trust him but you are concerned what they might try to do. then your not accusing him but he will know your curious. Then you just need to have faith that he is faithful
2007-01-18 12:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by jwood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop Snooping! or tell him you do it. Sounds like just friends, but you will never be sure without talking with him about it.
2007-01-18 12:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation your bf is prob trying to be nice when he turned his friend down, thats why he made up a lame excuse instead of just saying no
2007-01-18 12:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by hairbands_fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋