is it badluck??

Question

i was wondering about this for quite a while now.. if you're getting married for example on September 2007 & someone from your family died - grandma or grandpa 2 or 3 months before the wedding and you still continued with what you have planned, will that be badluck for the newly wed couple?

someone had told me - if someone from your family died - your DAD OR MOM prior to the wedding and you still continued with the wedding, something bad will happen to the newly wed couple - they will have badluck all their lives, blah blah blah... in order to avoid or prevent the badluck, you have to postpone the wedding and wait 45 days after the death or a year after the death of that person.

can someone please tell me if this is true? please? im kinda worried. my boyfriend and i have plans already - we're getting married in october 2007 and his grandpa is sick (he's got lung problems and high blood pressure and he's been in and out of the hospital lately).

thanks in advance guys!

to beygrl...
i am not worried about our parents - they're still strong and alive. im worried about his grandpa - he's been having health problems since they came here. i think he's 74 years old.

Answer 1

My husband's father became ill in July before our wedding in October. He was hospitalized in a coma until his death one month before our wedding. We went ahead with the wedding because we knew we had his blessing on our marriage before he ever became ill. We have been happily married for 15 years and God has blessed our home. No need to worry . Bad things do happen in this world, but not because of bad luck. Congratulations on your wedding -- whenever you decide it should be!

Answer 2

I think its become part of superstition because of all the feelings involved with the death. Weddings are supposed to be a happy event. If it is too close to a family members death then the focus will be with the departed instead of the new couple.
With that said, it is up to each couple to decide what is right. 45 days seems an arbitrary number. I'm sure your grandfather would want you to be happy.
I hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 3

It all has to do with superstition. Personally, I don't believe. If you are that worried, I would sit down with him and his parents, maybe grandmother if she's still alive, and ask them. Even ask the grandfather. Would they prefer you to postpone the wedding in result of death? Chances are they'll say no, go ahead. If they say yes, or sound like they're going to say yes, explain to them that you would honor the grandfather in death with a toast or picture or something. Perhaps checking in to your venues to see how much money you would lose by postponing/changing the dates.

If it's any consolation to you, one of my grandfathers was read his last rites four months before he died, because he was so close they thought that was it. He ended up coming back from that. My other grandfather was dying of Mets (advanced cancer, low survival, fast spreading) for six years when they told him he had months to a year.

Answer 4

Are you superstitious? If not than do not worry about it.
There was an old superstition that if you looked in the mirror of a house that had a dead person in it than you would die within 3 years.....that was 10 years ago and I am still alive.
If you are close to the relative then you may want to postpone the date out of respect, however there really is no reason to and it may just help the family over their mourning.

Answer 5

Sorry to tell you this but its true. Most people that I know that did have filed the big "D". So if your planning to get married you have to wait for at least 30 - 45 days.

Its up to you if you believe in this belief. May be a good prayer and a mass will solve this. Remember this is only rituals and beliefs so don't worry about this and keep it at the back of your head.

Answer 6

Superstion only has power if you give it the power.

I would go ahead with the wedding. I am sure your grandpa would want it. Be sure to mention him in a toast and put up a table with pictures of him and a big get well card for everyone to sign. He and your family will think this endearing and you will be happier for it.

You can put a little sign next to a picture of him that asks for wishes and well blessings from all.

Answer 7

I do not believe something like that would be considered "bad luck." In a way, and if you believe in an afterlife, the deceased person will still get to "participate" in the event, albeit beyond the veil of death and in spirit only.

Answer 8

My grandmother died two days before my cousin's wedding and they went ahead with their plans (the funeral was the next day). So far, nothing bad has happened that I know of. He has two kids with her and they're still married after almost 4 years.

Answer 9

properly, ..., you probably did submit to the incorrect team. although, i'm very sorry you're dealing with all of that and confident it does seem at situations that the universe aligns itself against as we circulate approximately our on a daily basis events. although, actual there's no longer such concern a "success" (solid or undesirable). particularly, there are platforms of habit, interest, and surroundings that each physique artwork in parallel with our very own on a daily basis lives. That a superb way of asserting human beings, places, and issues are many times spinning of their very own guidelines and as quickly as we collide with greater than a number of of them it creates a large number in our very own lives. As Geoff and others have suggested, ninety% of what you do is self-directed. you're making your guy or woman destiny. the different 10% comes from forces previous your administration like a automobile popping out of no-the place which you have no longer have been given time to react to. while that occurs, you may no longer permit existence get you down. you purely %. your self back up and circulate on. the automobile on the tip of the day is a chew of metallic, plastic, and shifting factors this is quicker or later (on your case faster) going to finally finally end up on the junk backyard. yet your nonetheless alive. The breath of existence is on your nostrils and you appear as if unhurt. that's lots to be grateful for! interior the destiny, do no longer save valuables on your automobile it particularly is not a secure place. i would not problem appropriate to the boyfriend ... there are different fish interior the sea. college ... circulate park your self on the dean of admission workplace and cause them to permit you initiate and don't take 'no' for an answer! in case you elect to get a decision from the criminal expert call up his workplace and circulate away him a message which you "could" have some greater advantageous money to spend ... I assure he will provide you a decision. in this existence you need to make issues ensue. you won't be able to circulate approximately letting existence ensue to you, else you will continuously land up the sufferer.

Answer 10

its not bad luck that is just a saying go on with your plans unless its like the day b4 ya know i mean my grand father died a few years ago but i am getting married the month of his death so we have somthing good to look to and pluse it was the day b4 my mothers birthday and i want her to have somthing good for that month and its all on how you belive and it up to you not every one else!