My husband and I have the chance to adopt a young girls baby. I have never been around babies but desperately want to be a mother after 2 miscarriages. I dont know how to really pick up a baby or play with one..he is 1 month old. PLEASE HELP
2007-01-18 03:55:06 · 8 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You really need to relax. You need to support the back of the head along with the rest of the body. Its just a 1 month old, so you really can't play with it. The best thing to do is to talk to the baby. Let the baby know that you love him, and that you will always be there no matter what. Just stay calm and that will help him to relax. You really shouldn't worry about impressing the mom because as long as the baby seems to like you then she will to. Remember that it is all about what is best for the baby not the mother. Good luck!
2007-01-18 04:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by jessica c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck and best wishes for you.
Despite what everyone might say to you : It DONT come natural. Find a friend with a baby and ask them to show you. Hospitals also have special classes for just that. Sounds like you need some good advice here, well, go get it now before baby wakes you up at 3am and you don't know what to do.
Can you change diapers? do know about formula feeds? Do you know how to entertain baby? Do you know what a baby can do to your nerves' lol Go and get some instruction.....that's your husband as well by the way.
If you want to reassure the mum (and she will need it) then remember to handle the baby confidently, talk to baby, smile and try to look like you just got the best gift in the universe....because that's what it is.
Yea, and good luck and best wishes.
2007-01-18 04:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are approaching this from the wrong angle. You don't need to impress the mother; you need to reassure the baby. The baby needs to feel secure and loved. If they don't feel that, they will not accept their situation. They will cry and refuse to sleep and that in turn will frustrate you which will cause you to be irrititable with the baby which will cause the baby to feel less secure, etc., etc., etc. Caring for a 1 month old baby is time consuming, exhausting, thrilling, frustrating, fulfilling, and disappointing. Can you handle the gamut of emotional situations that are coming your way? Your wants and desires MUST take a backseat for the next few years. The needs of the child must trump anything that you want for yourself. Only, if you are ready to make these necessary sacrifices, are you ready for motherhood.
2007-01-18 04:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't call him an it! Second, RELAX! If you are calm and comfortable, the baby will be too. If you are tense, the baby is likely to cry etc. Talk to the baby, hold him close, hold his hand. Don't worry about impressing the mother--just treat her like you would want to be treated if your roles were reversed. When the time is right, you will get the baby intended for you. Hang in there. Good luck with your meeting.
2007-01-18 04:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by sm2f 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just make sure you hold the back of the head. That way it doesn't flop around. Also.. do what comes natural. You will be fine. You can also watch her holding the baby and you will figure it out. Good luck I hope you get the baby you want!!
2007-01-18 03:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and find a new mum (not off the street, one you at least vaguely know) and get her to teach you.
Holding a baby is about more than supporting its head, you need to look comfortable doing it.
Besides, a bit of practice will do you good.
And remember, its mother didn't know how to hold it at first either - they don't come with a manual.
Good luck. xx
2007-01-18 04:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by shazzawazza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry.. its natural and once u look at the baby, u will know everything.. It's like a sensor light, u don't know u have it in u but once u see YOUR child it will come to u..
Best wishes
2007-01-18 04:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by BFP On September 20 :) 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm sure it would be better for you to talk with an adoption counselor than to be asking on here...if its that important to you.
2007-01-18 03:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by whosaidthat? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋