I had was dating this guy and the relationship was pretty serious... however I was the one to take a break from it for a while.. and we have been split for about 8 mons. now. Well I have told him I want to work things out and now he needs time..(I think because hes scared to put his gaurd down again) ... Until he comes around again if he does.. I need to know how to keep my mind of that and off of him which is nearly impossible..
Any suggestions on how???
Thanks!!
2007-01-18 03:54:18 · 22 answers · asked by sassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
meet new ppl,make new friends, pick up new hobby. go out with yr friends, keep yourself occupied and keep yr mind occupied so it won't wander. there's a lyrics to a song it goes this way... my friends keep telling me ... that if you really love her...you ought to let her go.. and if she returns in kind.....I'll know she's mine.. but tell me where do i start..cos its breaking my heart... don't want to let her go.. maybe my love will come bk someday.... only heaven knows.... So this song i dedicate for you. enjoy!
2007-01-18 04:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by istina jap 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Easiest way is to stay busy. Get a job or a second job, look into volunteering for a hospital, a hospice, a shelter, a church, or through Big Brother, Big Sister. Call up friends and schedule activities for the weekend a week in advance so you can be sure you have something to do. Take a class, join a book club, take up a new hobby like running or reconnect with relatives. Just make sure that you have stuff to do most of the time. Not only will this give you almost no time to sit around thinking about this guy, but if the activities are positive in nature then you will start to feel better about yourself. You might find a new passion or make some new friends. And when you do finally get time to yourself, you will be so excited to just sit down and watch television or read that you won't want to give him time then either becasue you have something else you would prefer to do.
2007-01-18 12:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, trust me nothing works. When you have a person in your thoughts, thats where they are staying. The only thing you can do is just keep living you life like normal. Go to work/school, hang out with friends. Things that you enjoy doing will help take him off your mind for a while. You just have to wait and see what happens, and if things dont work out you just have to move on. As hard as that is it is possible. Like I said, do things that will keep you busy, and keep him off your mind. Even if its only for a couple of hours, soon you will see that it will turn into days, and then months and so on. But dont ever expect to forget someone you care for completely, it wont happen. You made a place for them in your heart and they will remain their, the difference is that now you pushed him to the back, and hopefully you can make room in your heart for someone new.
2007-01-18 12:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get over him you have to be committed to doing that. Write a list of all his bad points and remind yourself of them whenever you think of him, focus on all the positive things about yourself and your life and put some effort into making good things happen for you, talk about him or write about him until you are blue in the face but it does mean you will have to be strict with yourself on how much you think about him, otherwise your thoughts are controlling you and it will take much, much longer. There are some websites with good advice - try searching under broken hearted and relationship break down. Hope this helps!
2007-01-18 12:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best way they say to get over someone is to get under someone else. However, that is vulgar and not my style of thinking usually. The best way is to live in the present. You are not with him in the present. What happens in the future is yet undetermined and the past is past. Right now go find something that interests you. A hobby perhaps. Go out with your friends and have a good time laugh your butt off and perhaps someone will enjoy watching you and like what they see and you might meet someone new. Eventually you'll say who's whats his name. Oh yes a distant memory of the past. If you allow yourself to go on it will happen. If you hold onto the past it won't.
2007-01-18 12:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start focusing on friends, family, school, or work, sports....find a new hobby, read more books.
Work on yourself and you'll find that you just don't have as much time to sit and think about him and the relationship as you used to. Don't think this is a quick fix... but each day will get easier. Trust me, I've been there too!
I hope things work out for you like you want them to! Good Luck.
2007-01-18 11:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a clear decision. "Space" never works. It only leads to heartache and breaking up. I'm sorry. I've been there. The reason you can't stop thinking about him is because you are in a state of limbo, of indecision. It hangs over your head every day whether or not he'll come back. You can't live like that. You need to tell him that its been long enough. You can't put your life on hold like this. You love him, but you need an answer. If he still can't commit, his answer is clear: its over. You need to settle this or you will never get it out of your head.
2007-01-18 11:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by diggity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy and try to have fun. Spend time with old friends or make new ones. Do things to occupy your time. Go back to school, get another job, etc. Time is what you need, and probably what he needs as well. Talk to him on occassion, let him know what your up to. Be interested in what's going on in his life. When he's ready, if he thinks your "more stable", he'll make the first move. Good luck.
2007-01-18 11:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by Copper Jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so...if the relationship was truly meant to be, then things will work out in due time. when you worry about it, then it ruins the rest of your time. try to think about other things...keep yourself busy. when you have tasks you need to focus on..then you won't focus on him. he is going through a rough time...you broke things off, so he is afraid to get hurt again. he'll come back if and when he is ready. hope this helps.
2007-01-18 11:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with ur girl friends, Have a girls night out talk about some other stuff. If u stay at home alone you will think about cuz theres nuthin else 2 do. Get active
2007-01-18 12:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by \m/^o^\m/ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will ease the pain - but to help accelerate the process, the best way is to just move on and meet new people.
2007-01-18 12:06:18 · answer #11 · answered by Sydney Bristow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋