In Despair?

Question

I just dont know what to do....

I am going to be 18 soon and alot of things are going to change
My boyfriend going to uni soon, my mums getting more help with her Ilness ( ms) i have been a carrer for 12 years i dont know any other way of life, and money is going to change.

I have derpression + sucidal thoughs and social phobia, i cant even go out on my own i know it sad but thats how i have been for ages, a big area of my life needs to change becuase one day, my boyfriend not going to be there anymore, he will be durham or somwhere, my mums going to have more help and not need me so much, and i might be on my own, i hate the though of that.

i dont know what to do
can you help?

i am seeing a thearpist and have read many self hep books, and hynothearpy

Answer 1

been there, done that, it's very gratifying to help people, excepecially those you love, but you need to start helping yourself. My career as an educational assistant, for the most severe cases of autism, brought me down to a breakdown last septeber, because I didn't know how to help myself. I've always got the answers for other people, but when it came to myself, i just ignored the symptoms, I'm now agoraphobic, and working really hard to recover. I take medication as prescribed by my family physician, exercise, and talk to people who are knolegable in this area, you'll never be alone, there are lots of people who care and want to help, don't lose focus on what's important, and that my dear, is you, take care of yourself, and let things happen, you need to start your life, and i think your mom is just expressing her love for you by getting outside help. Be strong, I know how hard life is when you suffer from depression, social phobia, and suicidal thoughts, so my advice to you is to get some help for yourself. good luck.

Answer 2

I suggest you look at making the most of your new found freedom. Maybe you could enroll on an evening class that would interest you.
Why don't you seek help from an evangelical minister of a church because Jesus Christ offers new hope and a new exciting life. Someone from the church might be willing to come and pick you up for church or some social events so you didn't have to go on your own. You would then become part of a bigger family of friends and be able to enjoy your self again. Get hold of a bible and read John's gospel and ask God to speak to you through his word.

Answer 3

The best thing you can do is talk to people which by the sounds of it you already are. Things in life change all the time, but you can adapt to these changes. Its sounds to me that your suffering from depression, a lot of people have it including me. In my case its been through things similar to you in that life has changed and I've not been too happy about it. If your are haing suicidal thoughts you do need to tell your doctor, they will either give you antidepressants which will lift your mood or they may give you some form of tranquiliser. Not being able to go out on your own is a form of anxiety. Both anxiety and depression usually go together. You'll be ok.

Answer 4

It is not that your mom does not need you any more, she is trying to lighten the load for you as her illness gets worse. She is also trying to ensure that you have some time for you. What would you like to do if you had the freedom, what are your goals, if any. Where do you see yourself in 5 years time. You have so much ahead of you and it is time to think about you. I wonder if you are having any counselling at present, if not I would recommend that you do this will really help you with all your issues. You have been a carer for 12 years, during this time you have had to make sacrifices, you are now number one - take care and get as much help and support as you can, you deserve it.

Answer 5

Hey, first calm down.
U are gonna be a grownup and its not so bad.
Dont let evil prevail your mind, open the Bible and read it when
u feel down. The words itself will lift u and do miracles.
Get u a tip job at a restaurant if u aint gonna go to college.
Love yourself and move forward. Think positive thoughts
only.
U do not need a shrink, this is a normal transition.
Its all in your mind, make positive things happen.

Answer 6

Go to the doctor. You are way to young to have had all this put on you and I respect you for doing everything you can for your mom. But there comes a time to take care of yourself too, so see a doctor. They can help. I have had many of the same feelings for years, but waited far too long to get help. You don't have to live your life feeling this way. Go to the doctor today, tomorrow, the next day. Just go as soon as possible.

Answer 7

Well you may not find it so bad being on your own, plus your mother getting more help for her MS is good, you have taken care of her for so long, she feels that you need to have a life, as long as you don't forget your mother. It is hard when it is time for you to move on. MS is a really serious thing to have. And it was very good of you take care of her all of those years. Now you need to learn how to live again, and enjoy life. So please keep going to the therapist that you are seeing and work with her on these isses, cause after living all that time just to take care of your mother, they can help you to get out of the house, they can even help you find a job, and a nice place to live. Change like this is on the list of one of the hardest to deal with, and so you need to go and keep talking to your therapist. Remember i will be praying for you. I wish you all in this time of need when you are going to change your life.

Answer 8

I agree with Dav. I did it. It helps a great deal. Helped to restore my self-confidence in small bite-size stages. You can do it.

Answer 9

Your best bet is to talk to someone at your local community mental health clinic.

Answer 10

are you on meds if not see a psychiatrist and get on some