What should i do...need help...?

Question

Ok so i have been kinda seeing this guy for 5 mths. Everything is great. well kinda of. Everytime we get together it is always when he has time right after he gets out of work which is very late like at midnight or later. Everytime i want him to come over my house or do something eirly in the day he never wants to or is too busy with a family thing. I know family is imporent. But it makes me feel unwated. He says he loves me and i know he does but what is his problum. I don't want to leave him i want to work through this. I told him yesterday that he never has time or doesn't want to come over and he still didn't come. Said he was feeling lazy and didn't want to get up. I chould really use some help. Thanks

Answer 1

Now you have to make a serious decison. Think what you should to make choices for him to pick one. If you want to work it up, then give him the choices: If he wants to keep you, then he has to do something about it, go to see you early like you just said, or if he just can't change his time, then he will lose you (remember dont be soft for him, you have to be tough). Let him pick the choice, once he pick, you will know the answer. If he doesnt want to, hes WORTHLESS and its will be his bad loss to get a great girl like you. If he willing to try it out, arrive on the time, great, keep him and hope he will keep it up. BE TOUGH, dont be passive for him.

Answer 2

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If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a
relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not
treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing
you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get
better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a
relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a
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Always have your own set of friends separate
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Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
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You cannot change a man's behavior. Change
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Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
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Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
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Answer 3

What I have to say is what you NEED to hear so don't take it personal as I am an outsider here to show you the red flags in this relationship..Honestly girl you can do much better. This guy is stringing you along cause he does not have the balls to end it with you. NO guy wants to end up hurting a girl so that is why he keeps making excuses and putting off seeing you in the daytime hours. If he was "that in to you" especially after 5 months come on now he would make the time and be willing to work with you to spend time with you. I think you need to re-evaluate your feeling for him and see what you really need and if that is more time and someone who actually wants to come over to your place. Then drop this loser who is obviously wasting your time and find a man who is worthy of you and the time you have to offer. Men will say what they can to get what they want from a woman don't be fooled either by it, I know it is hard but step outside and see the man for his true colors. I hope this helps and I hope you find a great guy who wants something more that midnight snack.

Answer 4

Sound like the guy need s to rest. If he works until late hours of the night then you need to be a little more patient with him. If you really like and care about this guy you won't stress him out by insisting he spends a lot of time with you. Maybe he has a lot of things on his mind right now and needs time to work through them. If you have never had a job that you worked at night, then you don't know how crazy your life would be. Working at night is hard, you have to find time to sleep during the day, plus do all the other things you have to do in the day, like pay bills etc... His job may be very demanding and he doesn't need you giving him ultimatums about seeing him. Relax, if later he still doesn't have time for you maybe it wasn't meant to be and you can move on. Sounds to me like he is very independent person and your trying to tie him down. Be more understanding and loving, maybe this will give him a reason to come see you more often.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like he is feeding you a line. A guy who acts like this guy is acting toward you is one who has no intention of wanting to do anything with you for whatever reason. You may love him and not want to lose him but the best thing I think you can do is to forget him since he is making no move whatsoever to accommodate you. He is all the time just making excuses. Excuses don't cut it and you know it. Either he cares or he doesn't and from what I see, he doesn't.

Answer 6

Sounds like he is making excuses. When he says he has family stuff to do, ask him to take you along, if he says no, well then you see where you stand. I had a friend that was like that, he only came around late at night, all he wanted was a romp in the sack. Well I told him to take a hike. Good LUck

Answer 7

Chances are he is tired if he is working late and/or long hours. If he never wants to come to your house then there may be something for you to watch for. Has he ever been there? If he doesn't have the time for you I think you should find someone who does!

Answer 8

Drop him! You're not a priority to him and you can't force it. It sounds like he could be married or in another committed relationship since he only sees you late and on his terms. Don't answer his calls and move on. Focus on yourself. Do things that you enjoy and you'll find someone with the same interests. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Stop making yourself so available. Make your own plans and go out with some friends. If he can't make the effort to see you and give you his time then you need to call it a day, because if this is happening now it's only going to continue in the future.

Answer 10

well maybe you guys should try to talk at again and you should tell the way you feel i know you have already tried but just keep tellin him and if he doesnt listen then make him by doing something that catches his attention and when you do that then tell him if he really does love you then he should listen to what you have to say