what do you do with husbands that hurt your feelings every day before he goes out the door.?

Question

i have a hubby that has to make a poinit to hurt me emotionalnot physically my as well because i work hard maybe not as hard as he at the mines but here is my own mine. clean up after my five other litter bugs. three teens one husband and a cat. then there the laundry and make sure there's a meal to come home to that hot and nurtional

Answer 1

lady you sound like me but i dont have children. my father in law just left his wife yesterday after 33 years of difficult marriage. four boys all but one at home.and what does she have left ? no income no support no work experience,a whole lot of broken memories, she cant stop crying.
im feeling stongly about womans rights lately,if you think you have the strength to stand up to him when hes being mean or critical you do it be confident, because if you think you can put up with it for another 10 years girl your nerves are going to be shot and useless. look after your health.

Answer 2

I understand why you cry a lot, pregnancy is a time of great joy, but it can be very scary too. First off let me say congratulations on your upcoming bundle of joy, parenting is a big step and it takes a person with a lot of commitment to care for a child, you obviously have a lot of it, I commend you for that. Now im a guy, so I don't know about all the pain of the birthing process, but after all the stories I have heard, once you see your baby, and hold your baby in your arms, it's like nothing else matters. I also think that you may need to sit your husband down and calmly talk to him about exactly how your feeling, he is involved to and helping each other cope with the stress (he's going through it too belive me, it may not seem like it but he is) will be a big help and its way more important than a car. The crying and stress are natural, but the baby feels it too, all you need to do is whenever you feel stressed or feel like crying, sit down, if you feel like crying then cry (crying helps reduce stress and it's better to go ahead and do it than hold it back) then think about how it will be after the baby is born, how happy you will be. Don't let negative thoughts enter your mind just think about non-stressful stuff like if you havent come up with a name yet you could think about that and even talk to your husband about it. I hope I helped, I gave it a try anway lol. Once again congratulations, I wish the best for you and your family.

Answer 3

Be point blank and when it's just the two of you, ask him if he realizes that he is hurting your feelings....if he asks how, tell him..
Has he always been this way or is this something that's just recently happened? As for your kids, if there are 3 teens, let them help you around the house....Do you work outside the home?

Answer 4

Honey, I don't know why you need us to tell you it sounds like your marriage has been over for too long! If that's all the respect you get from him, that's not love! You need to get out. You should at least have enough respect for yourself to not EVER put up with ANY kind of abuse! Physical or mental! GROW A BACK BONE, AND LEAVE HIS SORRY @SS!!!!

Answer 5

It would appear that you have lost touch with each other. Are you spending enough time with each other as a couple; as friends and lovers? Please make an appointment with a marriage counsellor for your own good and that of your husband and family.

Answer 6

do not put up with it,just remember you don't hurt the person you love,talk to him whatever you have to do to stop the mental abuse

Answer 7

your husband is a jerk just stand up for your self. tell him NO thanks bud. you are RUDE you are so nasty to me. you can clean your laundry make your supper when you can be nice I will help you out

Answer 8

Lock the door behind him and keep it locked.

Answer 9

kick him to the curb. sounds like an ***.

Answer 10

dump him before it gets physical