I'm confussed.. what should I do?

Question

I'm 20 years old and have never been in a serious relationship until now. I am currently with my boyfriend for 6 months now, but I have known him for about 2 years. There is a problem.. I am confussed. In a moment I love him to death, but then he does something that really turns me off and well, then I get all confussed about my feelings towards him. For instance, he is NOT romantic and everytime I do something sweet he likes it but his reaction doesn't seem like it. The only times he gets romantic is when he sees that I am really sad.. he begins to say sweet things to me. He says that he wants to spend the rest of his live with me, but I don't know if to believe that. At the moment he doesn't work, I am the one that works and most of the time pays for everything. I don't want to even think that he is using me because of the fact that I work. His mother LOVES me! That's also another thing that I've been thinking about. He's a momma's boy and his mother tells him all the time that he

will never find someone like me.. so sometimes I think that he is just listening to her and is trying so hard to make us work out because HIS MOMMA said so.. ahhhh maybe I am thinking too much, but I don't know.. what do you guys think of my situation???

Answer 1

get really busy so you don't have time to think about it or you'll GO CRAZY! don't worry just chill on it for a while but if you know he's not wha tyou want then tell him you'll just be friends and move on

Answer 2

You my dear have a mommas boy who is used to the woman taking care of everything.
He is lazy and is a freeloader. Whether she likes you or not has nothing to do with it.
Can you imagine yourself in a relationship with a man who has no backbone?
No compassion and no romance, no work ethics???? Whoa......
That sounds like a life sentence.
I think it is time to quit playing nurse maid and mommy to this over grown child. You took up where his mom left off.
You need to get your own place or have him move out.
He is taking you for granted and will allow you to foot the bill as long as he can manipulate you, which is what he is doing.
He only gives you what you want when you get upset.
He is selfish and just has no drive . He lacks self confidence and is always wanting Mom's approval. You can't fit into this equation.
He needs a woman who is tough, will not take any crap from him, who will not put up with him lazing around and a woman who calls the shots.
sorry but I know someone exactly like him.......
Sh ewas probably over bearing when he was growing up and made all his decisons for him.
Now he will do as little as possible and let those around him take up the slack.
If this is the life you intend to have then stay with him... if not you had better open up your eyes and find a man,who will share the relationsip and be an equal partner
They do not have any expectations of themselves, how on earth can he have any expectations in this relationship.

Answer 3

i was in a simular situations once ...when i came out of the relationship i told myself i would never talk to a mommas boy again...we didn't live together but he came over alot..i was the one with the money so i paid for everything..i took care of him..in the end i got tired of everything and broke up with him...thats when he realized that he loved me and really wanted to be with me (maybe he miss what i used to do..cause as you as his they will never get anyone as good as us)...but i've moved on to something better i'm with someone now who not only loves me but takes care of me...he stills call me to this day saying he wants me back but its too late...girl i'm not tell you to leave him but be sure he's not using you (why doesn't he work..cant he get a job) ...why can't he show more appreciation for you and you are doing so much...maybe you should kick him to the curb...he needs to make a change in his life ..get a job or something...and if he really loves you he'll be back and if you really love him you could always take him back...but he has to be doing something positive in his life looking towards the future.. good luck