I live with my boyfriend ( he is 3 years older then me). One day I got off work early and came home. I heard music playing in our apartment, and I guess they didn't hear me come in. When I stepped into the bedroom I saw this guy sitting on the bed and my boyfriend giving him a b-l-o-w-j-o-b. They both turned around and looked at me. I was so shocked I ran out.
Now I am sitting at my friends house and I don't know if I can go back. I fell like crap! My boyfriend keeps calling me but I don't pick up. What can I do?
2007-01-18 02:53:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's time to move on... 1 he cheated on you, and 2 he's gay... your relationship may evolve into a friendship, but I don't believe you should think there's anything worth salvaging romantically... he's scared right now that you're pissed and will out him. above all you need to talk to him after all you had an emotional bond not to mention a living arrangement... Your confused and feel betrayed... completely natural at this time... "This" isn't anyone's fault... he made the mistake of living a lie... Be brave and move on
2007-01-18 03:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by alex b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wether it was a man or woman he still cheated on you, you don't need that go find a straight man unless your into that and want to turn it into a 3 some. If you need to ask than maybe your interested.
Just think you and your boyfriend could get laid at the same time
2007-01-18 03:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is obviously into guys, and nothing YOU do will change that. I'm sorry to say that you must either:
Accept that he is into guys, and either tolerate his activites (or join them, if you are so inclined. I'm not implying that I think you should join them, but if you are interested in doing so, it could be a very exciting experience for you.)
Or say "Hell no! I want a normal relationship with a straight guy!" and get the hell out of that relationship.
In my opinion, you have to do one or the other, and you have to do it RIGHT NOW.
2007-01-18 03:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well look at it this way if you are an open minded person you will accept this as him just fufilling a fantasy and move on. If i was to find my GF with another girl i would be offended but also i would look at it as she is getting off from someone who knows her body way better than I could ever know. Now if i found her with another man...she would be history.
2007-01-18 03:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by STK FLKR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to stay with ure friends until you calm down. Dont push him away though. Give it a while and meet up with him. Let him know that you can be trusted and ask him right out if he is gay or bi or just experimenting. He did cheat on you though sweetheart and you know what they say about cheaters.
Dont blame yourself ok. Its not your fault this happened.
2007-01-18 03:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him. I understand how embarassed you must feel. If it's too awkward to talk to him, then don't. Go pack up your stuff when he's not home and move out. If you have a lease, maybe you can talk to the landlord and explain that he cheated on you and hopefully you can be taken off the lease. Or you can be a ***** and make him move out. He did cheat on you. Pack up HIS stuff and leave it outside for him. See ya!
2007-01-18 03:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to find as new boyfriend. Get your stuff and move out of the apartment. Someone who cheats is bad enough, but one that will cheat in your own bed.....geez.
2007-01-18 02:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He was obviously masking a secret. It is time to show compassion and good judgment. Get out of this. You don't know if he is
sleeping with other guys too. You don't need to become infected.
It is done. I can't see how you could ever go back.
2007-01-18 02:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to decide if you are comfortable with him being bisexual.
You need to decide on whether or not you can handle him having sex with other people.
Can you allow him to live his life as a bisexual man? Do not waste your time trying to change him, it will not work.
2007-01-18 04:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you were deceived. At best, your boyfriend is bi-sexual, or he could even be gay living in the closet.
You deserve better than that and don't settle!
2007-01-18 03:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋