My inlaws to be have ever so generously "helped" my wedding party go from 3 bridesmaides to 5 with 2 juniorbridesmaids. I know i should have told them to back off before it got this bad but now what do i do? Do I put the juniors as juniorbridesmaids or as candlelighters? Can they be both? How does that work? Someone please help me out!
2007-01-18 02:43:15 · 11 answers · asked by Crys L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A bit more details...... I have asked my fiance numerous times to talk to his family and he has, so have I. I have five bridesmaides plus the two little ones. What is a good way to have the little girls be both candlelighters and junior bridesmaides?
2007-01-18 04:19:10 · update #1
Well our wedding party is 10 bridesmaids, 10 groomsmen, 3 flower girls, and 1 ring bearer.....so your 7 doesn't seem too big to me.....but I know ours is an exception. It is your wedding however, so it is up to you what you want to make them. Just remember that little girls love doing this kind of thing and will remember it for years, so if you can allow them to junior bridesmaids...if you have enough room...I would let them do that.....but if not, they will love doing anything for you wedding.
2007-01-18 03:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would express what you're feeling to your fiance and ask him to facilitate a conversation with your future in-laws, about cutting it down.
Otherwise this won't be the last thing they decide to be "helpful" about....
If there is no way around it then give the juniors other jobs. I had a similiar issue and I had my nephew read a passage and I had one of my nieces hand out the programs. That way they felt involved.
Good Luck and remember it's you and your future hubby's day, no one else should make the decisions! :-)
2007-01-18 02:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Nichole D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can be whatever you want your wedding - I'd put the younger ones as something other than bridesmaids - that way the main players in the wedding party will be less.
2007-01-18 02:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see some thing incorrect with it. im no longer having a church wedding ceremony, we are getting married on the sea coast in mexico, yet i agree that there is a few thing eye-catching about status there only you and him. that only looks extra actual and easy. i receives my perfect pals and my sister a present day as if they were my bridal celebration and that i have talked to them and they are ok with it. on the great of the day human beings might want to be disenchanted, and whinge besides the undeniable fact that it is your day. you're making the alternative in accordance with what you opt for this present day to be because, with any success, you wont be doing this back. you should save in recommendations besides the undeniable fact that, that without a wedding ceremony celebration you wont be guaranteed the help maximum brides get from them and there wont be a maid of honor that has to throw you a bachelorette celebration!
2016-11-25 01:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply tell them that although you appreciate their help, you have decided to only have 3 bridesmaids and you have placed the other 2 as candle lighters as that is where you needed people to fill in.
2007-01-18 02:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not to late, just explain you feel it's getting out of hand, not what you really wanted and that you are going back to your original plans. That you appreciate their help, but you've decided to make some changes. It's supposed to be YOUR day, not theirs. You better learn real quick how to stand up for yourself with them, right now you are teaching them to walk all over you! You have to put them in their place NOW! This is the beginning of your future with them, so start from the very beginning by teaching them they have limits as to how much they can interfear with you and your husband!!
2007-01-18 02:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is that too many? I am having 6 bridemaids because I couldn't cut anyone. I think just leave the juinor and junior bridemaids and leave the 5 girls. If they want to buy the dress and help you- then let them. The more the merry!!!
2007-01-18 02:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what would you rather have them be? They can do both.
Also you better tell your inlaws to stop helping you with your wedding. The next thing you know their going to start adding people to your guest list.
2007-01-18 03:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding. I repeat. It's your wedding. Make them candlelighters if you want, or just politely tell them that you don't want any more people in the wedding. It's your call because...It's your wedding.
2007-01-18 02:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by ludaquis555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can do what ever you want them todo . . .It is your wedding and your special day . . if you feel like you don't want that big of a wedding party then explain to your in-laws that it's not what you invisioned your special day to be . . and that a wedding is a once in a life time thing. . .don't fret make it your day as it should be
2007-01-18 03:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋