Relationship Advice – Involves Boyfriend & his Friend. Please Help!!?

Question

I’m 23 years old & I need some advice on my relationship & what to do. I’ve been with my b/f for 5 years now & I just feel as though I’m not happy anymore & like there is something missing. It also doesn’t help that I’ve become very interested in one of his friends. Me & his friend get along so good & flirt constantly. He tells me all the time that I am gorgeous & the coolest girl he knows & that if I didn’t have a b/f he would be with me in a second. I know I can’t leave my b/f to be w/ his friend, but how do I know if his friend is serious w/ all this or not. I keep thinking what if he just says these things b/c he knows I’m taken. What if when I’m single he isn’t interested anymore? Also, over the weekend I when I was dancing w/ him he would stare directly into my eyes & like wouldn’t stop. I just kept looking back & smiling. What does that mean??

Answer 1

Sounds like you are already having an affair with this guy and don't even know it yet. Where is your b/f when all this is going on and why were you dancing with his friend instead of him? Now that I said all that, ask this guy how serious he is when he says these things to you. Ask him if he really would go out with you if you and your b/f broke it off. Would he be able to accept that you are possibly going to be his friends ex girl, is that going to bother him. If you are actually considering the fact of dating him, this will maybe bring you closer to him. If he actually makes you feel better about yourself then your b/f then, I say go for it and go out with him. If it doesn't work out, your b/f will probably take you back because of how many years you have together. This is probably bad advice but, somtetimes you just have to follow what your heart is telling you to do. It definetely sounds like he has a crush on you too.

Answer 2

Sounds to me like you've gotten the seven year itch 2 years early.

You're a little bord with the way things are and you're looking for something new and exciting. A lot of people go through the same thing but it all is on your shoulders. The friend is something new that can fill in the bord spot.

If you truly love your boyfriend then don't do anything with his friend.

#1 It can only cause you to break up with your boyfriend if caught.

#2 You could cause your boyfriend to lose a good friend over it.

#3 If the other two happen, it could mean that both guys will end up hating you for it and you'd be left out in the cold with no boyfriend and two less friends.

Stick it out and talk things over with your boyfriend. Let him know you need something more in your relationship to get out of your same old rutean. Get out more, do things together and make life more fun like it used to be.

Here's a thought, you might think it's for old people but take your boyfriend and go play bingo. It's a lot of fun, you can be together and you stand a good chance of winning some money, maybe notn the first time but if you keep at it you might and with the two of you playing, you have more of a chance to really bring some cash.

Answer 3

I can't tell you what is going on in your boyfriend's friend's head. I can tell you that you need to break up with your boyfriend. You're just not that into him. If you were, you wouldn't have said "I feel as though I'm not happy anymore and like there is something missing." There probably is...someone else or it could just be that you enjoy the attention (different attention) from another guy. This is your intuition screaming at you to make a move. It isn't saying move on to someone else. It is just saying that this someone isn't the right one. I've never been one to advise going from one boyfriend to the next. I think everyone needs a little down time to themselves first. Time to evaluate what you really want in a relationship. Good luck.

Answer 4

This is very dangerous territory. You already say 'I know I can’t leave my b/f to be w/ his friend' so why are you still thinking about it? It doesn't matter if he is serious or not because it's not an ethical thing to do.

If you're not happy in your relationship, break it off, but NOT because you want to date your bf's friend. If something eventually happens with his friend, then that's fine, but he's probably just flirting with you because he knows you're taken. Guys really do love the chase, but when you're single...it could be a whole different story. Think long and hard before you make a mistake. Trust your gut.

Answer 5

Ok first of all breathe. Ur 17 ur not getting married tomorrow and ur not having kids anytime soon. When the situation arises, then worry. But I would say do not ever change yourself for someone else. Do not give up ur beliefs and ur church because ur boyfriend wants u to follow his. That's crap. U are ur own person and have the right to be ur own person so u shouldn't feel like ur supposed to "follow your husband spiritually". And think about it .. When it comes down to it ur both going to the same place - heaven. And when that happens it won't matter what church u went to because it's all just about loving and having faith in God and Jesus Christ. It may seem like a big deal now to choose a church but once it's all said and done it doesn't matter!!! I think if you guys do get married you should continue to attend your church and he should attend his church and this will give u both time apart which is a good thing to have in a marriage and will eliminate arguements between u both about whose going to what church. I know it will suck cuz I'm sure u were hoping to attend church with ur husband but just do whatever it takes to prevent and eliminate arguements and problems. Or, if it's really that big of a deal between the two of you, maybe it wasn't meant to be. About the kids .... If u were to have children u should expose them to both churches, as well as others, and let them choose what they want to follow. Too often I see children grow up confused because parents just throw them into a church and never actually explain anything about it and then the kids don't get to explore and make their own choices

Answer 6

You know what I have found out in life. If you dont give something 100%, then usually it isnt gonna work. If things have changed with your boyfriend then its probably time to move on. But if things have changed with your BF since you started noticing this other guy, maybe its you and your mindset-you want this other guy so setting your relationship up to fail would enable you to possibly see this other guy.
You want him, you know you do, but I have to tell you this...
You can probably have sex with anyone-so the guy you want, your boyfriends friend, you should just leave him alone and move on or rededicate your self to the current relationship.
Sex, while rewarding, is something that destroys relationships.
Find a different guy...
And good luck!

Answer 7

Ok...so it seems like his friend might be interested but since he knows his boy is going with you he's not going to make a move...i say if your not happy with your boyfriend break up with him, maybe tell him how your feeling even though it may hurt him...he'll move on, most guys do...but dont immediately go for his friend...cuz thats just rude...who knows maybe once you break up with your bf...his friend will come around or maybe u'll even find someone else...who will make you happy and make you feel like things in your relationship is complete....hope this helps...and good luck :)

Answer 8

first off all i think thats not right trying to date your bf friend but in the other hand i think its ok i guess i mean you been going out with the same guy for 5 years since you were 18 so really you havent really experienced yet. i think you should follow your heart, but first breack up with your bf then wait a while before you go out with his friend since a lot off guys see it wrong, you know going out with each others friends. good luck

Answer 9

YA'LL NEED TO STOP! If you love your boyfriend, you shouldn't even be interested in his friend. And that guy isn't really a friend of your boyfriend's. He shouldn't be crossing that boundary! If you do like him though...sad to say, tell your BF...you need a break to get some things together.

Answer 10

dump your current b/f if you are interested in other people. It is not fair to him or you. Then if you like this other guy go out with him. If you dont want to leave your b/f Tell the other guy that you cant do anything with him unless you break up with your b/f and to stop comming on to you becasue it is not fair to you or your b/f.