My mother doesnt like the fact im with a female and because of this the rest of my family dont like it either. My partners family on the other hand are happy for us. I feel bad that mine dont feel the same. My mother when i told her of our engagement responded with "im not happy for me, now you wont see your dad ever again as you wont go to heaven". She and the rest of my family wont be coming to the wedding but my partners family will be. I have just moved to the uk to be with her so have no friends yet so there will be no one for me to invite. I feel sad about that but im not going to let it ruin our day, our day is about the love we have for each other and if people dont like it. TUFF.
2007-01-18 01:53:25 · 15 answers · asked by ukprincess83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Exactly, you are who you are and if you want to make a commitment to the person you love then do so, it is your life. People will come round when they see how happy you are. I had a lonely wedding, because no one liked my husband and everyone was against it, burt we went ahead anyway, had a great day. Now people are coming around. All the best to you both.
2007-01-18 01:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents/family will be the ones to regret not coming to your wedding. If you are happy then that's all that is important, and I think people should not be so judgemental, what a cruel remark to make about not seeing your father in heaven. There is a huge gay/lesbian community in the UK, get yourself out there and make some friends! Once you have been here for a little while you will soon meet people through work or socialising. Don't let it spoil your day.
2007-01-18 03:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your with someone who genuinly loves you, supports you and values you then what does it matter what your Mother thinks.
I have a traditional marriage - but my Father has not spoken more than 3 words to my Husband, refused to give me away or attend the wedding and wouldn't allow any members of his family to either.
Definition of a wedding - an occasion where you never please everyone and rarely even yourself.
Have the wedding you and your partner dream of - only invite people who are positive and supportive and live a good and honest life (I'm sure your Father is very proud of you).
Best wishes and congratulations.
2007-01-25 00:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry that your mother is acting like that, i know it must break your heart that she doesn't support you. hopefully in time she will come around. but until then, you need to do what is right for you, with or without the support of your family. that's wonderful that your partner's family is supportive, you're very fortunate to be marrying into an open minded family. i wish the best of luck to you and your partner. don't let anyone else's ignorance get in the way of the love you have for each other. bless you both!
2007-01-18 07:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Civil weddings are not bad in the least. Is better to legalize the union than going astray. Besides, not every church wedding is guaranteed to function as it should. I got married by the catholic church. The guy decided to show off as he really was after we were married. It was a total mess and I ended up divorced. If I ever know a nice man, I'd like to marry again. But I can't remarry by the church, and also the whole community will frown at me as an adulteress. It's so unfair because it was him who failed, not me. Because of his mistake, I have to stay alone for a lifetime? that's BS to me. You love your partner? You feel the civil marriage is the right thing to do? Then go for it. You have my blessings.
2007-01-18 02:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by M'lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you do for you and the one you LOVE forget about the people that don't understand you. I understand when you feel like your family should the main ones their to give all the support that you need. But I feel that the only reason that your family wouldn't go a long with what is going on is that you are going to marry another female. if that's not the case then I hope God be with you and you husband I say go for it no matter what, because only that person is loving you for who you really are.
2007-01-22 08:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lady "A" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about all the family stuff, but I think there should a blanket legal common law-like law that 5 years of living with someone constitutes a legal bond. It would then be a matter of filing papers with whatever ceremony a matter of personal choice.
This would apply to marriage, legal partnership, and particularly, adoption.
2007-01-18 02:12:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations to you both - it is hard but it is not about what your family want it is about the 2 of you - if your family can't accept you for you then that is their loss - it is better for you to be surrounded by happy people on your special day and not people who will spoil it - don't worry about inviting people that you know - you are becoming part of a new family and one that is accepting you for who you are.
2007-01-18 23:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you love someone then you should fallow your heart, but it is important to have your family there. You should talk to them and if they are still being stubborn then enjoy your life to the fullest and pray for them, because who are we to judge? If your family loves you then they will come around! If you need further support than what this site gives try looking it up! Read this: http://www.film.ucf.edu/students_Tomlin2005.php
good luck!
2007-01-18 02:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by motherofthree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that its only a problem if you are christian and actively gay. You can't do both. However, if you don't follow christian beliefs then who cares? Its quite a lot of fuss over not very much. As for your family, that's their right to have their beliefs whether you believe or not, they think its anti-god or whatever. Let them think what they like. Lots of hetero marriages have empty seats as well!
2007-01-22 09:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋