Instructors , tell me horror stories of bad students. I will award 10 points for the best (or worst) story?

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For example , I had a female student who came to my school from a larger city. She had a yellow belt and was 13 years old. She argued with me about everything. I broke her of that habit by having one of my smaller female students spar with her , took away her feeling of superiority almost immediately. She recently visited her hometown , and although she has now spent more time at my school than she ever did at her old school , she went back to arguing about everything I say. Not to mention that my small club has produced 3 national champions , I have been teaching since 1889 (longer than she has been born) and her "McDojo" in the city has students who could not fight their way out of a paper bag. (She was included here until I took over her training). I finally kicked her out when she recieved her green belt and argued with me over technique she had never seen before.

Give me your best or worst for 10 points.

sorry 1989 , even spell check doesn't catch that. no thumbs up from me for you pointing out I am human , did't give me what I am looking for.

Still looking for those stories of bad experiences with students. I know it is the99.9 percent of students we keep doing it for , but there is always that small percentage on the fringe that makes us cringe.

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Sometimes a student cannot be helped for whatever reason. I do feel badly about not being able to help this particular one , but she did have an attitude that was not good for the rest of the training students. I do not feel that I failed as an instructor because I could not help her. You can only teach those that want to learn.

No student was bashed in this forum , no names were mentioned. In the last 17 years of teaching I have only ever had to remove 3 students from the school for the betterment of the club. Sometimes it just happens , and when other students and parents of students are asking the instructor "What are you going to do about that kid?" , it is time to act. You can't make a kid quit if their parents make them come and show no interest in their kid's training once they are in class. You can't have them beat up every day in class either to teach them a lesson. My thanks to those of you who understood the project. Those of you who deny that there are students who have no right to be training in MA are living in a fantasy world. Again , I thank you for your stories.

Answer 1

Our dojo is in the inner city. We have had many children with social problems. Some have have violent outbursts, others have home problems and that act out because of it.
It is hard to say these kids are "bad students", they have problems that affect their ability to train but it is beyond their control.

In my opinion the bad students are the ones that come in and do not try. To not put 100% into your training is bad.

Answer 2

If I had a 'bad' student, it was because I failed as a teacher.

I liked the story above about the instructor who made a student work around the dojo. At least up until the part where the instructor kicked the student out. There are schools out there that make all students clean the dojo (we have all heard stories about using a toothbrush to clean tatami mats). I believe that this approach will naturally weed out those who aren't committed to being trained. But you have to let them quit on their own, not kick them out.

If you do have 'bad' students, hopefully you are using this forum to find ways to help those students and you aren't just here to bash them. An instructor can teach the 'good' students. A master can teach anyone.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You have been teaching for over a century? Wow isn't that some kind of record?

Edit:

LOL! Ok... The worse student I have ever seen (I'm not a instructor) was a mid age man who came in really drunk and ask my instructor to train him to be a killer. So my instructor told him if he want to learn, first he would have to serve my instructor. So my instructor have him do all kind of dirty work such as cleaning the gym and parklot around the gym and other things for a few hours. Few hours later my instructor kicked him out after he finish every thing my instructor ask him to do.

Edit2: The reason my instructor kicked him out is because the gym I train at was a private gym. He doesn't take in anybody, he take in only very few selected students. Also the man was already in mid age and the gym is for those who are fighters only. Everyone there is in early 20's or younger but for two who has been pro fighter for long time that are in their early 30's.

Answer 5

thats a good story. But you are old you have been teaching since 1889. that was before i was born and a lot of people as well. you must be in good shape to keep it up.