2007-01-18 01:33:41 · 17 answers · asked by mami17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See what happened is my boyfriend has a 5 year old daugther w/some other girl> she still wants to be with him, but he doesn't want to be with her. So in turn she uses her daughter to her advatange. She uses her to get revenge for "all the things he supposedly did to her" As a matter of fact> he never wanted to be with her....she begged him to be with her...she wanted him to go behind my back and cheat on me with her...and since he doesn't want to do these things....she takes advatange of the fact that he loves his daughter to death and makes him pay....
2007-01-18 02:23:46 · update #1
Thank you ladies....I would love to show him all your answers so he can see that not all women are as low and selfish as that stupid self centered *****.
2007-01-18 02:30:30 · update #2
no...a child is not a weapon..thats sick.
2007-01-18 01:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No; the relationship between a man and a woman is separate from the mother/father relationship with a child and the latter needs to be a priority.
To deny the child access to their father, unless he is physically or psychologically harmful to the child will only cause long-term problems with the child's emotional development.
The child is the union of two parents and if they are told, even just through lack of contact, that the other parent is "bad" or does not want them the child interprets the message that THEY are bad and not worthy of love.
As hard as it is to suck it up and be civil to a lying, cheating ex, you have to find a middle ground where you can be civil to each other for the sake of the child or children.
2007-01-18 01:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you all are-or what state you live in--but---no matter what---the child Should Not EVER Be Put In The Middle Of The Parents Squabbles!!! This precioua child is the product of both parents. To put each other down around this child in any way, shape or form is totally wrong! This child is to grow up knowing love and respect from both parents towards the child-and the child towards both parents. Please, tell the child's Mom, DO NOT USE THIS CHILD AS A PAWN. I heard of one young lady, who said when she was growing up, her mother used to put down her father to her-now-as an adult-she does NOT have a relationship with her mother-but does with her father. So, if she thinks she is doing the right thing doing this, she is wrong-and she needs to be aware of the possibility it could backfire on her later, with their child. If both parents truly love the child-they will put their personal differences to one side when around her, and no bad mouthing each other to someone/anyone, around the child-EVER. Wishing you all the best. Take care.
2007-01-25 16:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey take it from somebody who has been through it before,you would be DEAD WRONG. Your not only hurting that child,your hurting yourself and the father too. In the long run you will end up looking like the bad guy and it could turn your child against you. I know grls who have never seen or met their fathers and they are a mess. Their relationships with men never work cause they dont know what a man is
2007-01-26 01:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not.... your child will be missing out on getting to know their father. Even though my parents split up when I was 2, I don't know where I'd be without my father. Staying together, as a couple, just for the child is torturous for the two of you and could be horrible for the child. Let the kid see his/her father and find yourself a man who loves you and wants to be with you. You deserve that and so does the child. Good luck!
2007-01-18 01:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by kellilicious5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a stupid B****. She thinks she's hurting him and not realizing that she is also jurtung her daughter. If I was hime and she continually does this he can go to court and get visitation rights. but by doing that it opens up the issue with child support if she says that she want that. I am in the same situation right now. So what I did for my BF is I made him pay $25 a week to her for 3 months straight and we went and applied for visitation rights and we won we get his daughter every other weekend and the entire summer and he still pays the $25 faithfully. What men fail to realize is that there are as many laws to protect them as a father as there are for mothers but you have to be willing to deal with the consequences. And as for the b**** she is going straight to hell. I hate females who does that to men who are really trying to be a father when he wants to be there. I but if she talks to parents who doesn't have their children's father in their life at all her stupid azz will think twice about what she is doing. But again she is hurting her daughter even more. And trust and believe her daughter will grow up to resent her. Tell ur bf to keep his head up and keep trying cause she wants him to give up so that she can have something to talk about.
2007-01-26 01:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by wet t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is one of the most selfish things a person can do. The child is going to suffer more than anyone and that is so unfair not to mention the fact that's it's just horrible parenting.
2007-01-18 01:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you don't ever use a child againest the father (or the mother) and you never take a child away from a parent either!! tell the self centered ***** to get thel hell over herself and let him see his child with out useing taht baby againest him!!!!
Kimimila
2007-01-26 01:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Fighting Irish Lass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, every child needs their father. Unless he was physically abusive, then I would keep their father away and then explain it to them later. When they're older if they wish to meet him then thats completely up to them.
2007-01-25 17:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH NO !!!! DONT LET THE CHILD SUFFER....
BE ALL MATURE ENOUGH TO FACE THE SITUATION....
PEOPLE INVOLVED SHOULD BEFRIEND EACH OTHER FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILD...
DONT LET THE MONTER OF THE CHILD BE EMOTIONALLY TORTURED.... SO THAT SHE WILL BE TAME AND NOT WILD WHTI HTE SITUATION
2007-01-25 14:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmin Elemento 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!!!! your child did not do anything wrong why should the child have to suffer
2007-01-26 00:52:18 · answer #11 · answered by Gina D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋