This guy I've been seeing is my complete opposite. I'm an educated professional career woman and he's, for lack of a better term, a bum. He can't hold a job, he stays up all night and sleeps all day. He has no car, lives off his parents, and has absolutely nothing.
The upside is he's incredibly sexy, charming, fun to be with, good in bed, and he makes me feel good when I'm with him. He's extremely attractive. I've never met anyone that made me feel this way.
What do you think, should I keep seeing him, and just take the bad with the good? Thanks for good answers, no judgemental comments please. 10 points for best answer.
2007-01-18 01:32:15 · 5 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the real question is this: Why are you messing around with a man that doesn't stimulate you intellectually? If you are all the things that you say that you are, then why aren't you attracted to others who are in similar positions?
I'm not suggesting that someone has to be your equal in every way, but it feels like you are selling yourself short of your own personal fulfillment with this guy. There are many men out there with all the positive aspects of this man AND are successful and driven. There is nothing sexy, charming, or attractive on a gut level (to me) about someone who has an unmanageable life.
If it was meant to be you would know it and probably feel it, too. Its unfortunate that it sounds like this is not the case. I'm confident when I say that someone who is not on a similar career trajectory as you will only bring problems in the future. Remember, you are looking for someone who is a good person as a mate, not just someone who makes you feel good.
You owe it to yourself (and all of humanity) to find your equal and make the future a better place. You are definitely worth it.
2007-01-18 01:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he may be fun for now, but if you are looking at the long distance run of marriage and a family then I would say no. His current attitude is to do nothing all day and basically get to do nothing because he lives with his parents. If you were to move in with him or marry him are you ready to basically be taking care of a grown up child? Also it sounds like he might be a moocher so don’t trust him with money or credit cards or I’m afraid you will end up in a deep hole.
2007-01-18 01:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it might work for the time being, but sooner than later you'll grow resentful; good looks and good sex won't be enough for the long haul (on the other hand, if you're just having fun, then who cares?).
Ultimately, you'll need someone who shares the same goals as you. Now, you don't have to be the same type of person, but that's an important thing to have in common with someone.
2007-01-18 01:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you gonna marry this guy or just bang him for awhile??
if its just a fling, keep on.
if you are trying to get serious, pretty soon you will find yourself supporting this looser mooch, just as his parents are right now.
think about it sister.
find yourself a business man in a suit to marry
2007-01-18 01:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Said you were well educated , well follow your instinct, make sure he love you for you not your money....GOOD LUCK AND FOLLOW YOUR HEART
2007-01-18 01:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by sexy mom package 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋