When we have grown up? and left home ! do we need our parents!?

Question

I mean, should we, no matter what has happend in the past forgive pople just because they are family?

Answer 1

No. You don't have to forgive ANYONE you don't want to. Including family, they can be some your biggest enemies. And despite how the saying goes:
"Keep your Enemies close and your Friends closer"
This does not need apply.

Answer 2

I am 25 years old and there are many wrong and unreasonable things that my parents and siblings did to me that I still remember and will never forget. I guess it is not about whether or not do we forgive them. It is about what I expect from them and whether those things should have happened or not. No, we shouldn't forgive them just because they are our family members. As a fact, I would say if you mention that they are our family, they should be more understanding and reasonable and not have the wrong idea about me. I also don't think I need my parents and siblings for advise because personally when I was a teenager and preteen, they didn't really give me any good advise. Whenever I need their help, they would say that I should be old enough to solve my own problems and that if I was a good child, I should give them too many problems when they struggling to work and pay the bills and take care of so many things. Now I am 25 years old and they say that they will help me if I need them. My question is if they feel I shouldn't need them to help me in the past when I was a child, why should they feel I should need them as an adult now. Right???

Answer 3

I think your question is alot more deeper than you have asked. I love my mum to pieces and have moved out from home but you still need them parents are one thing that will always be there for you and on your side no matter what!

However from your question i think something has happened that you obviously don't want to talk about that's fine but depending on the problem you face i can't really advise you to forgive if i don't know what it is. My partner's brother used to beat him all the time while he was growing up and even when he moved out of home he has kind of forgiven him but as soon as he clicks my man goes running so i can't really answer your question without knowing what you need to forgive. Sorry,

Answer 4

Whatever has happened between you and your parents, providing it hasn't been abusive or illegal, should be put aside. Family, no matter who they are still family. And it's a moral obligation to do what you can to help them if they are in need.
I myself suffered physical abuse from my father when I was young. Now that he is old and incapable of doing harm as well as the fact that he remarried a head strong woman who rules his life with an iron fist. I still keep in touch and talk to him.
If you live your life with any sort of bitterness, it will only make you unhappy. You have to say what is done cannot be changed, but I am going to be the better person by putting aside any negative feelings and treat them with the respect you would to any other person. That is what would give you peace and hapiness.

Answer 5

Remember, forgiving is not only for those who have hurt you but also for yourself. When you forgive you take back your power. It isn't the same as forgetting. You never want to forget because that will keep you from allowing old patterns to continue to affect and hurt you. Do you still need your parents? It would be good to have them in your life for many reasons. But if they are too toxic then perhaps separation from them, for now, is the best. Shut the door but don't lock it. Who konws what the future might hold.

Answer 6

you've asked two different questions i think. Do we need our parents? I know I do, I'm married with 3 kids and I can't even imagine not having my parents. I still go to them for advice and support. Love them to death!

Should we forgive ppl because they are family? Well, that depends on what you are forgiving. You don't HAVE to forgive anyone but it makes life a whole lot easier for all involved if you can.

Answer 7

Yes because you will be hit with the hardships of life. But if your family has done something horribly liek it is so evil even the devil wouldnt do it then you should still forgive them. You cannot change the past so get on with life.

Answer 8

I had some issues with my family when I moved out. Then I got married and when I was pregnant with my first child, I was glad to have my Mom. Life is too short to hald grudges for things- and hopefully whatever bad things you have had to endure, will make you a stronger person and a well balanced adult. With age comes perspective, and I may not go to my parents every day for coffee, but I keep it open and positive. It is so much easier to let things go than to stew over them, you'll make yourself crazy! Hang in there!

Answer 9

Forgiveness should not be assumed, even with family. Just because they are family does not make what they did OK or forgivable. Ask youself this - if they were not family, would you find what they did forgivable? That will be your answer.

Answer 10

Depends what they've done. Personally I do need my parents. When you get older you start to realise that some of the advice they give you is actually quite useful and a lot of the nagging is only because they care. You only get one set of parents so I think you should cherish them while you can.