I have cheated on him too. So why is it so difficult for me to forget it and get past it. When i cheated...he forgave me and the only reason i had the littlest faith in love was becasue of how true he was to me. And how much he loved me. i cant seem to trust him anymore. but i cant live without him either. Maybe he could forgive and forget. i am ready to forgive...but forget i dont think so! i want to trust him when he says he loves me , but i cant! what should i do?
2007-01-18 01:29:38 · 22 answers · asked by a lil birdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont b with him..u both cheat..thats a bad relationship with no love.
2007-01-18 01:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't forget, you can't forgive. The weight of the knowledge of his unfaithfulness will always bring you down if you can't put it in the past.
Also, think about the fact that you cheated on him too. Is it very fair to be upset about him cheating, when you did the exact same thing? It doesn't matter what your reasons are; you cheated and that's that. You'll never trust your boyfriend again if you can't both put it all behind yourselves and move forward.
If you ABSOLUTELY feel like you cannot let go, then you're not fit for a relationship with this boy.
2007-01-18 01:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it hurt when the cheating happened to you because when he forgave you, you thought that he would not be on revenge mode! Well he forgave you , but in his head he owe's you one- like if he cheats you have to forgive him because he forgive you. Its kind of a hard situation because he did forgive you (so it does seem you would have to do the same to you) BUT if he forgave you, why did he get revenge???? So, he has been holding that against you all that time! You dont need to be with someone who you have to worry about being vengeful. SO, if you both cant just call it an even score and forgive each other then you can continue on with your relationship BUT if you cant get past this, then its best you guys let it go.
2007-01-18 01:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a good question. Neither one of you have a right to be upset with the other. I don't think either one of you will be able to trust each other again it sounds like. I think it's time to evaluate your relationship and find out why each of you cheated. But I honestly wouldn't continue the relationship. If you can't trust him now; you won't be able to trust him next week; you know? Good luck!
2007-01-18 01:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-18 01:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight...You cheated on him, but now you have issues with him cheating on you? Is there some reason that you feel that you get to be held to a different standard of accountability than he does? Either you are in a commited relationship or you aren't. You do not have the right to hold him to a different standard than you hold yourself to.
2007-01-18 01:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Steve H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he has actually forgotten that you cheated on him, and neither will you forget. You may love each other and want to stick it out, but if both of you can’t seem to et past the wondering eye syndrome you both need to move on or just have time apart to figure out what you really want and need in your life.
2007-01-18 01:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad you two aren't married...how old are you? Sounds like your going through the ups and downs of finding the right person....
I believe if the trust is gone...its time to move on...sorry I'm sure that's not what you wanted to hear. But, wouldn't it be nice to be with someone that you wouldn't have to worry about...and you completely trust!!
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2016-10-31 10:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he loves her. If he was simply getting a piece...just think of it like him whacking off into a toilet. You don't get offended when he whacks off do you? If he loves her...then it's time to end the relationship. If he loves you, just know you are the most important thing.
What works for some people in a relationship, doesn't work for others. Don't let someone's "rules" about relationships dictate yours.
Many many people live happy lives in open relationships, just don't get caught up in the emotions.
2007-01-18 01:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh, it's OK when you do it, but not when he does it. I think he ought to dump you because you are more than a little screwed up. What should you do? Give him back his life and leave the poor guy alone.
2007-01-18 01:32:52 · answer #11 · answered by morahastits 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋