I have strong feelings for a man whom I've known since I was 15 (I'm 22 now), and he's married. We aren't having an affair, but I would like to know, what's the best way to get rid of my feelings for him so that it won't get to that point?
2007-01-18 01:28:17 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you love him...You are just infactuated with the idea of being with him...You like his qualities as a man. You may see how he treats his wife and other women, and you are attracted to that...that's what you want in a man. You don't have to rid yourself of the feelings, because it's perfectly natural to be infactuated with people and things...you just need to understand that he is not yours, and you need to keep you hands in your pockets and youe eyes in their sockets...that was so cheesey...LOL
2007-01-18 01:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you got a big problem, but it isn't unsolvable. First you must find out what attracts you to him, and try to find this thinks in an other man. That's one think. Or, you should try to free you're mind of him. I know it's hard, but just think of the possibilities you would have. So many men are waiting just to know you so why focus just on one person? And last but not least, if it's meant to be, it's going to happen so don't think about him anymore:)
2007-01-18 09:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by miki b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you feel about him and ask him what he will about you...face your fear to keep all your feeling on your own. If you both do love each others thrully, both of you can find the way to express it ( i'm not ask you to do an affair....), if he doesn't so you can continue your live. wether still continue to love the man that not love u or accept the reality and try to love another..ok. and good luck...
2007-01-18 09:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by loena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for someone else. Join a group so you can meet new people. I found someone at a tax course I once took. We were together for 10 years. My current boyfriend I Found in Yahoo personals.
2007-01-18 09:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what to say it is really hard when you love someone specially if you know nothing is ever going to happen. It might be a face that you are going through just hope that it goes away and find yourself someone else before you do anything stupid.
2007-01-18 09:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ronice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out and do something. the best way for me to get over one thing is to fall into something else. Go out with your friends. I'm not saying avoid him, but you know it's wrong, you don't know if he has those same feelings for you, so just make the decision and the effort to move on, and then Do it.
2007-01-18 09:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by mizzoutiger18 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no immidiate solution for the same, as this is phycological issue, only time will cure this, Spend time in some diffrent interesting asctivity.
SK
2007-01-18 09:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Saint Kabir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to convince yourself that he is your brother, and your care is sisterly. It's OK for sisters to have strong feelings...if you can't convince yourself to be a sister, then be the adult, and walk away. Cause, no matter what he's your friend, and friends don't mess with friends marriages.
2007-01-18 09:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out an meet someone that is actually available. If you had feelings for someone else you'd forget about him.
2007-01-18 09:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is good that you arent trying to split them up...you know the quote" better late than never " well thats not the case....dont ruin it for him.especially if he is happy..there is other loves out there
2007-01-18 09:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋