i understand that mothers are the most important person for babys, i also understand that we should be there every time they look for us or "call' for us. my only concern is that my 7 week old baby doesnt even let me go to the bathroom theminute that he notices or sees that i leave his sight he stars crying like if something was hurting him obviously i come back and check him out and as soon as he sees me he stops, he hates to be left alone with his father, and even at night when sleeping he opens his eyes now and then to check if i changed him to his bed or if i'm still there, you can imgine that now i cant even take a minute to go to the bathroom with out him, please helpo me should i let him cry or sould i keep on encouraging the teory that he need to see that when he calls for me i'll be there, i'm a new mother and my baby is very important to me, thank you!!
2007-01-18 01:23:04 · 20 answers · asked by yennyfer 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
let him cry, i know it sounds horrible but eventually he will realize that you will not be there every time he cries. believe it or not even that young they know when your not around. i did this with my son when he was a baby. at night i would put him in his crib and as soon as i would leave he would scream so i would run right back in and pat in until he fell asleep. but it got to be too much, i am sure as you know being a new mom as soon as your little one is in bed that's when you would do things around the house and it was getting to the point that i couldn't do anything. so i started to let him cry, i put a small radio in his room put it on very low and this worked, i even laid a shirt of mine that i had worn and put it in his crib (i read that in a magazine, that the baby can smell you and it is comforting to them) this did help me he started going to sleep on his own. good luck i hoped this helped you a little!
2007-01-18 01:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by missaboo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, new mommy, how do you know at 7 weeks that he's opening his eyes at night and checking to see if you're still there? Unless you're by his side every single moment checking on him. Every baby wakes up at night and cries, they need to be fed. Honestly, it kind of sounds like you have the anxiety issue, not your kid. My very good friend couldn't stand to leave her baby for even a minute, and phoned her husband every five minutes if she did leave the house. It drove her husband crazy because it never gave him a chance to work things out on his own or to spend uninterrupted time with his son. Their baby was fine, but she would run to him if he even so much as gurgled thinking he was crying for her. Maybe this isn't how it is with you, but think about it. Try leaving him for a minute at a time, then two minutes at a time, and then gradually build it up. You aren't doing him any favours by creating a dependency, although 7 weeks is way too early to worry about something like that. And by the way, the thing about crying being good exercise or good for building their lungs - a wives tale, not true at all. Crying is just crying.
2007-01-18 10:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers are very important to their children, but if he isn't even letting you go to the bathroom without him that is a problem. I don't know because I'm not a parent, but my guess is that you should leave him alone with someone for a little while each day and see how it goes. Maybe he will get used to being away from you. You can't have him grow up COMPLETELY dependant on you; he'll never get anywhere. Just about an hour a day. Make sure he gets lots of water. Or milk. either one.
2007-01-18 09:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jahzarra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello, i am a mother of 2 children age 6 and 8, i always said that when i had kids i would still have time for myself, eg doing my hair and makeup in the morning, so when mine were little and they were screaming or crying and obviously if you know your baby is not hungry, or if you know his bottom is clean that he is just crying because you are not there i would try going to the toilet and not worrying about it he will soon get used to it . otherwise he will cry and know you will be straight back and that doesn't help your child in the long run. So dont worry just because you leave your baby every time he crys because you are doing something you need to do, it doesn't mean your a bad mum. you are only helping your child in the long run....good luckxxxxxxx
2007-01-18 09:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by pinkprincess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a firm believer that you can't spoil a baby in the first 6 months - take him with you to the bathroom and lie him on the floor while you do your business, get dad to be with him while you are in the room until he gets used to dad, keep him in his own room and just keep going to him when he cries. After 6 months, you can start to train him that world won't fall apart if you're not there right away (and by then, most babies have calmed down anyways).
2007-01-18 09:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by chicchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal or new borns to cry when they lose sight of their mother, sometimes it even lasts until they are a toddler. But try getting you bub to spend time with you and your husband so he gets used to trusting you both, as a new born the baby normally warms to his/her mother better. So try spending time with your husband and baby with alot of love, that way your baby may become founder of your husband and let you go to the toilet when your husband is by/near him.
Even if your doing something and he is crying try singing to him or talking to him or just talking and he will hear your voice and know you are still there. Its a safety thing and the baby only feels safe when they know their mother is near.
Goodluck and congrats on your first little bub. If you get a chance, email me and let me know if this works for you. xoxoxo
2007-01-18 09:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by fi_beans90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts to hear him cry but he will be ok! You will need to take a few minutes for yourself during the day. He will outgrow this eventually. If he must cry then so be it. Let the little guy cry if you need to take a break. Find some way to block it out (as hard as that can be to do)
He will be fine.
2007-01-18 09:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it is true that you need to show baby when he calls you are there for him...you also need time for you(and if that means just going to the bathroom peacefully then so be it) If he there seems to be nothing wrong let him cry while you are using the bathroom. It is also very important to help them learn to self soothe.
2007-01-18 09:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are setting yourself up for a nightmare. You need to talk to your pediatrician about the timing, but your son needs to learn that you going away does not mean you won't come back. What will you do if you have to go to the dentist? Or stay overnight in a hospital? If you don't start fixing this now, you are setting him up to be afraid of everything.
2007-01-18 09:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by crossbones668 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 7 weeks, I would say go to him. Also have the father talk to him more, read to him or tell him stories. It doesn't have to be about anything, it is so the baby will recognize the fathers voice.
2007-01-18 09:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by papabear_654 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋