I had been dating this guy for awhile and things were going very well. Right before New Years, he calls me up and says that he doesn't know what to do about us and that his ex came back into to town and apparently there are still feelings between the two of them. Yes, I'm a little perturbed at the whole situation, but I don't understand why people do that?! Why do people start a relationship when your clearly not ready to start one?
2007-01-18 01:20:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because they are lonely and don't want to heal, they would rather just put a bandaid on their pain so they don't have to face it. Alot of women do the same thing. I totally agree with u though, people shouldn't move on until they have dealt with their past, it's not fair to the new person in their life. That is why one of my first questions with a new guy is when his last relationship was and why it ended, because if it was a few weeks ago and she up and left him after a couple of years then that is not someone I pursue because u know u are just their rebound woman to escape their pain.
2007-01-18 01:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, it is a risk you run when you date a person that is six months or less awayfrom a breakup from a long-term or meaningful relationship to them. It's called being on "the rebound".
Their motives vary, usually they do it because they are lonely, scared, or afraid of of being alone. The new relationship is often salve to soothe their broken heart and can bloom into an actual relationship, but more often the not, as soon as they start getting their confidence back, they either try to get their ex back as they miss the familiarity of that relationship or try to initiate a new one.
Best thing you can do is thank him for being honest with you and not sneaking around behind your back (he told you, so he respects you, so that is a huge plus) but if he is free to see other people, you are also...if he makes up his mind he wants to have an exclusive relationship with you, it will be a whole new ballgame and he needs to be sure about what he wants before requesting it.
2007-01-18 09:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both men and women do it. They do it because it's convenient for them and they are inconsiderate.
The only thing the "moral" people can do to protect themselves is to ask a lot of deep questions in the beginning of the relationship. Most men hate this - because they feel we are probing - and asking for commitment very early on. But you know what? Any man who won't talk to me about what he wants and where he's going - based around his morals and values - is just not worth my time.
Sorry this happened to you. It happened to me too - but I wised up. Good luck with the next guy!
2007-01-18 09:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause some people, especially men, cant live without one. They constantly have to have someone to mess with.
2007-01-18 09:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by star-e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tarzan taught them, 'never let go of the vine you're swinging with until you grab hold of the next one'
After all, it's a jungle out there.
2007-01-18 09:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know, I wish I also knew why people were so foolish... I'm sorry that you're stuck in it.
2007-01-18 09:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wherea rest stop in his life get over it
2007-01-18 09:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by badgoat69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because men are greedy lol
2007-01-18 09:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by Shemei Carter 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
confusion, confusion and confusion!
2007-01-18 09:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋