I do not know how to flirt, or be sexually assertive, I love sex have been with the same man for 8 years and know I can trust him and that he wants me to be, but I feel stupid. People always have judged me on how I look and percieve me very differntlt than I am and before my current boyfriend was always the trophy girl and that was it, nothing else about me was worth getting to know I guess. I would love to have sex a lot more than I do, I just feel as I said before stupid when I act that way!
2007-01-18 01:10:41 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Want to try something different and get his attention? Here is one of the things that my gal Melrose does for me that gets me very hot.
Melrose likes to dress up for me in a sexy outfit like a naughty nurse uniform, cheerleader outfit, etc. and then do a private strip dance for me. She will even use toys on herself as part of the act. This show never gets old and always gets me really worked up. We end up having hours of great sex.
I suggest that you give some role playing and dancing as described above a try; hope this helps you have more fun.
2007-01-18 01:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by ICARRYABIGSTICK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok Jenn, first of all if people treat you like you're only a trophy girl, then thats just wrong. You are worth getting to know as a person as well,,, ok?! but back to your question, if you want to be more agressive sexually, just use your hands to grab and fondle. Most men react positively and get the hint that you want it. don't be afraid of your sexual impulses, it's natural and healthy to want more sex!!
2007-01-18 01:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are pretty much inhibited. It's also great that you have a man you can trust so you can expriement safely. Maybe try relaxing ... drink, or little weed if you are into it. Something to lower your inhibitions. As your man to use words of encouragement when you do something he particularly likes. Talk with him about YOUR sexual fantasies and how you can make those a reality.
2007-01-18 01:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one time my gf and i were laying in bed watching tv and she said hey ill be right back, i have to go to the bathroom. so i said ok sure. well a couple mins later she calls out from the bathroom door to close my eyes. so im thinking what the hell is she doing? i do it and i feel her come back on the bed. she said ok open youre eyes. and there she was above me with some really sexy lingerie on and it was really such a surprise that she did that. i wasnt expecting it at all. so something like that would work well. dont feel stupid. have fun with eachother.
2007-01-18 01:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it isn't in your nature, then don't change. Your boyfriend obviously likes the way you are and the way you act, or he wouldn't be with you for 8 years. However, if he's looking for stronger clues that you are in the "mood", try these subtle hinters...
1. Excuse yourself to the washroom and remove your panties and when you return, hand them to him very secretive like. (that's an instant hard on to ANY man)
2.) Tell your boyfriend that when you roll your eyes up and smile, that you are signaling that you are 'ready' (but the word WET really turns them on)
I haven't had to flirt any harder than this with my man.
2007-01-18 01:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every man I know would like for his gal to take the initiative on occasion. I found it hard to do as well, but after taking the wheel once, and seeing how much my man enjoyed it, it was easier the next time. I bet if you decided to take the initiative tonight, he will be thrilled and shocked and you will see how much easier it is tomorrow night. Go for it hun. good luck!!!!!
2007-01-18 01:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sending him text messages when he is at work or someplace else impossible to leave right away. Make each one more urgent than the last. When he does get home, make good on all of it. Immediately.
2007-01-18 02:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so don't do it. Just go up and kiss him and let things happen naturally. Do not waste the energy learning something you are uncomfortable with. Apparantly he is all into you since you guys have been together for 8 yrs.
2007-01-18 01:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have been with this guy for 8 years you should feel pretty comfortable around him, wear sexy lingerie, high heels, there are flavored lubes, porn, sometime during the day just talk to him about it, find out his fantasy passions and go for it, no reason to feel stupid, he'll be enjoying it!!
2007-01-18 01:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by collegechick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I first got together with my man, ilpinman, I wasn't that assertive.....I just dropped to my knees and unzipped his his pants and did my thing!
After that I knew he was mine and he's been coming back for more ever since!!! ;)
2007-01-18 01:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by CURVY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋