Was pressured by recreiter to leave sooner than he expected. Felt because he signed up, he had to go to bootcamp. Now there, he knows it was a mistake. Anything to do?
2007-01-18 01:03:08 · 25 answers · asked by J B 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I've heard it all before. I didn't want to be there either but I didn't give up. Tell him to stick it out and things will get better. After all, many people have been where he is and they made it through. Don't start a trend that will carry through the rest of your life. He can beat down his lying bastard of a recruiter later. If everyone was a quitter, the US would be a communist country.
2007-01-18 01:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Land Warrior 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes, even though you sign the line, that does not mean that he signed his life ver to the Marines. One while he is in bootcamp, he can speak to his Drill Sergeant. Explain that this isn't for him. Yes he will be called a punk by all there, but in the long run he will be out and on his merry little way. He may want to give this some deep thought. If he changes his mind now and then wants to join again, there is a chance that he won't be able to. The marines are the first to go over and the last to leave the war. The military has alot to offer, if you choose the branch that is best for you. If you have a family, such as a wife or child, the Marines may not be the best option. There are family friendly branches such as the Coast Guard (which is my personal favorite). Basically what I am saying is don't rule out on the military until you know what each branch has to offer. Tell your boyfriend good luck with whatever he chooses to do. Also, tell him for dramatics, cry a little bit so that they know that he really wants to get out. Just Kidding. If there is a will, there is a way...or is it the other way around. Any how good luck.
2007-01-18 01:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by DJB 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It isn't that uncommon for people to get out for failure to adapt. We started with 72 people in my platoon in boot. We graduated 47, or 46, one of the two. Many people do not make it through bootcamp. Believe it or not, it isn't always medical reasons that they do not make it. It isn't quick either, they will send him to a platoon, he will be placed on working parties, and finally let out when they get around to it. Most likely, by that time, he could have already graduated. But, it will follow him where ever he goes. He will have to put on future applications that he went in, and was discharged for failure to adapt, or something of that nature. Though it isn't a Bad Conduct Discharge or worse, it does show he obviously doesn't research things before making a commitment, and may be hasty to give up when things get tough.
I would also be leary of marrying this person anytime in the near future. If you do, there is a good chance you will hear that he realizes that marriage is not for him, and he felt pressured, and that it was a mistake.
2007-01-18 02:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Bootcamp is a tough experience; it's meant to be. There is reason and purpose behind every aspect of this training. I doubt no less than a handful of recruits don't think of ways to stop the madness and go home.
But that's when the young people begin to learn about themselves. I wanted to quit (joined in 1974), but I couldn't bear the thought of being a quitter. That's just me, and what I faced with that guy in the mirror. I stayed, in fact, stayed for 26 years.
Sadly, many people today are taught that if something isn't fun, just quit. Comments like "tell them you're gay" etc...I couldn't use dishonesty, or propagate a situation that would render me unfit for further duty, or unfavorable discharge - just because I wanted to quit. See it through, develop yourself and learn what you really are. Enlistments are for specified periods of time. Thus, after a certain amount of time, if it's not your cup of tea, don't reenlist. But tell him don't be a quitter now, because it will always stick in the back of his mind.
Also, make sure you're not egging him to quit too. Be there for him, and encourage him to see it through. You may learn something about yourself also.
Good luck to you both
2007-01-18 02:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by stretch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have up to 180 days from the time you enter the military (go to bootcamp) to just say its not for me and getout. He might end up staying a little longer than he thought because he will have to do all the out processing. It will not be a dishonorable discharge as others may state.
What he will need to do is notify his DI that its not for me and that he is ready to leave. If they give him alot of **** then he just needs to escalate it up his chain of command. Just let him know that these are regular people and dont be nervous about it. Bootcamp is just part of the process of training people and weeding out the people that cant make it or dont want to be there. That is one of the DI's job.
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2007-01-18 02:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by striderknight2000 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, he can not get out of it...My fiancee just went through boot camp and it's not easy it's extremely hard and it is definently a challenge the only thing he can do is get through it and continue...bootcamp is just testing him to see what he is capable of doing the rewards come later believe me. As for you the only thing you can do is support him. Write to him as often as you can and keep him motivated. In the end he will love you more for it and you will feel extremely proud of him. I know it's hard if you need anyone to talk to just e-mail me at the address posted....Good Luck
2007-01-18 02:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by J-Lo 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, unless he is screwing up somehow to warrant a failure to adapt discharge..
Really, bootcamp is the worst. Once he makes it through, he will think its the best thing he has ever done, or really, the best thing in life that you can accomplish. He needs to hang in there, and not back out of his commitment. It will haunt him down the road if he figures out a way to quit. Think about it. If he can't honer a commitment to work, what other places in his life is he going to do the same thing with? Tell him to suck it up, and be supportive of him staying. ITs tough being away from loved ones, but not impossible.
2007-01-18 01:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by Shawn M 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Tell him to talk to the Chaplain and to tell him that he wouldn't survive in the military and that the recruiter completely lied to him.
Also, get a new boyfriend. I know this guy that did the same thing after like 4 days!!! He was definately a loser to begin with, and still a loser for not going through with it.
2007-01-18 07:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend talked to me about joining the Air Force last year.
I told him once he signs that agreement, he can't go back.
But he said there IS something.
If you get injured, you can have the permission to leave.
I forgot the exact term for it... I think it's ______-leave.
He can actually dislocate his shoulder. It's disgusting. But he said if he wants to leave, that's what he would do. LOL.
And now he's talking about the Marines. : (
2007-01-18 12:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is purely not allowed and can be a undesirable determination besides. enable him do his preparation. some weeks extra and he might get a weekend pass. enable him replace right into a marine, there will be time for romance and gorgeous presents later. mind-blowing now his female pal is his very own weapon.
2016-10-07 08:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋