Many showers - bridal showers, baby showers, etc. - are girls only. In the event that a woman who is married is invited to one of these events, is it proper etiquette to label the gift from the woman only to the woman only? Or to the woman only from the woman and the man? Or to both the man and the woman (if the shower is a bridal shower or for a married expectant mother) from the man and the woman? What if the men are related, hence the woman being invited to another woman's shower? This has always confused me just a bit. I see gifts labeled in all sorts of ways, but don't know which, if any, is more proper. Thanks in advance for the advice!
2007-01-18 00:49:27 · 11 answers · asked by JenV 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
my husband usually picks out the gift and i go to the party so we address it from the both of us.
i don't know what 'miss manners' would say.
2007-01-18 00:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that only the person who is invited to the shower should put their name on the gift, you picked it out, paid for it, wrapped it, and dragged it to the shower, put your name on it alone. Most shpwers are girls only, and the honoree isn't expecting your husbands name on, for instance, a nightgown for a wedding shower. But if you want to put from part or all of the family, fine. If your husband is interested, or at least knows about the gift, fine. If the kids know, or helped pick it out, fine.
But beware, someone sensitive might think you were making a statement about the others on the card not being invited.
Save the group card signing for the wedding, I am assuming you and your hubby are invited, maybe even the kids.
I have seen people include a small child on the gift card, of couse that is OK. Little 3 month old Mary was probably with you when you bought the gift, and wrapped it.
We as women have been liberated for many years now, we do not have to include the menfolk unless we want.
2007-01-18 02:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a gift that both parties can use, then you can address it to the couple. In the event it is slinky underwear for the bride to be or similar-only to her (we hope). In the baby shower event-I would put to MOM, DAD, and BABY or to THE ******** FAMILY (my personal favorite because it covers your bases as far as spouse, other children etc.). Do not make it FROM a couple unless you are married. I'm sorry-that will upset some people but it is not proper or good etiquette unless you are. I hope I helped.
2007-01-18 02:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a bridal shower if men are invited then write both givers names on the gift.
2007-01-18 01:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
If its a baby shower and the gift is for the baby; address it to the baby "Baby (last name)" to alleviate the issue.
If it's specifically for the mother (i.e. lanolin cream or breast pads - address it to the mother... Because its a more personal gift, address it from the woman.
If it's a bridal shower - it's supposed to be for the bride so to the bride from whoever's name was on the invitation. If your husband is one that likes to take credit or went shopping for the gift make it from "The XXXX Family" or "The XXXX's"
If its a wedding gift then to "The XXXXXs" from "The YYYY's"
2007-01-18 04:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by parents of Bre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage doesn't mean all gifts must be to or from the couple. And if the couple isn't yet officially a couple, as in the case of a bridal shower, then of course the gifts are to the bride (or groom) only.
2007-01-18 01:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The gift is from whomever it states on the card. If you invite "Becky" and she gives you a baby shower gift with a card saying "Love, Becky & Mike" , make the Thank You note to both!
2007-01-18 15:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by kguinn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the proper way to do this is to "give" the gift to the person who is on the invitation, and "from" the person who was invited. In most cases the woman who recieves it understands that is is for her and her spouse, and from you and your spouse.
2007-01-18 01:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by moonlit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
truly the men will probably never see the thank you card and really could care less about the whole thing so it really just depends on who it says the gifts are from. If it says from the family then address it to the family if it says one person in particular send a thank you to just that person. Just go by the card or tag on the gift. Easy Peasy!
2007-01-18 01:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by RHONDA P 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
how one might want to present for that reason....deliver a present to the formal wedding ceremony. do no longer provide 2 presents....it truly is stupid! you may also deliver a present between the receipt of your formal invite and the certainly wedding ceremony day!!
2016-10-15 09:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋