my boyfriend is in private secuirty and does this everytime he takes a job. He just got back from and job in iraq and was only with me for 2 weeks before he left to go to nigeria. the thing that drives me crazy is its not like he is in the army where they tell him to go he picks his own jobs. he choses to put his life in danger even though in a few months he is gonna be a father. so i ask how would you deal with this. also asking him to stop in not gonna happen he has already let me know that. so please help!!!
2007-01-18 00:41:58 · 11 answers · asked by mrs. smutty aka sodachix 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, obviously you knew what he did before you got together. It's not likely he's going to change anytime soon. He might be in it for the rush, the money, thinking he's making a positive difference by protecting people~~~~~ probably all three. I'm sure he loves you, but is just one of those men who has to do what he has to do regardless of the woman in his life. These men are hard to love, you have to make the hard choice of dealing with it or leave. Good Luck!
2007-01-18 00:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there's not much you can do. That's his job and it seems he enjoys it very much. All you can do is be supportive and send lots of prayers his way. Also try stopping your mind from worrying so much when he's gone. Maybe get a hobby, take a class, join a gym, etc. You're having a baby soon, so don't stress too much. Enjoy when he's around and also share with him your fears. People change when they have kids. Maybe he'll have a change of heart once the baby is born and he'll think twice before taking dangerous jobs. In all, try not to pressure him or fight too much with him. No one likes to feel like they're being told what to do. Just share your concerns and your fears and let him see how worried you get when he's gone. Take it easy girl. Good luck!
2007-01-18 00:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with this one. It is hard to make a person choose between their career and family. You cannot expect them to stop doing something that they love just to make you feel more comfortable. I gave up doing Haz Mat before meeting my wife cause of the jobs in the Syracuse, NY area. But once i left that area I felt drawn back to it. I just love the work. However, I have not gone back to it as my wife doesn't feel comfortable with it. I choose her over the jo, but it was worth it to me. I have other interests that I like nearly as well so I had options.
As for this situation, the time away would be more of a concern for me if I were you. He is going to be a father and I would be stressing the child's need. Maybe he can take more jobs near home.
Good Luck.
2007-01-18 00:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer... Enjoy and make the best of every moment you have together. My hubby was in the Army and across the world.. and yeah you have concerns.. but you wouldn't love him if you didn't worry. But you find strength to get through it. Use your faith, family and friends as help as well.
But the truth of the matter is any of us could get hit but a bus or something like that tomorrow.
No one is promised tomorrow!
You have to make the best of what is today and cherish that.
Good Luck & God Bless!
2007-01-18 00:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B e prepared for the worst at all times, but I wish he makes it through all the time. can't you talk him into getting another kind of job? You say he is presently in Nigeria, do you know the part of Nigeria he is now cos right now I am in Nigeria. Pray for him that God would protect him.
2007-01-18 00:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not necessarily a dare devil to do a dangerous job. Someone has to do it................be it military, or law enforcement. People don't get it. It is hard, but you either deal with it or you don't. If you can't, move on, it will be easier in the long run. If you stick it out..........congratulations, you will join the elite group of family members who respect what their spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend wants to do with their life. Good luck in what you choose.
2007-01-18 00:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by FireBug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has made up his mind. There is nothing you can do. Just pray and hang in there.
2007-01-18 01:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by hhfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's simple, dump him! No reason to be stressed out all the time when instead you could find yourself a business man like myself
2007-01-18 01:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
notwithstanding in case you elect to maintain to your self, you may desire to not threat your protection! tell him to circulate **** himself with a ******* spoon interior the asshole whilst his ******* abdomen jingles whilst he does it! and if he nonetheless does not leave you on my own, call the law enforcement officers and get his *** arrested for stalking/ harassment.
2016-10-07 08:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the moments you are with him. You are not the only one in this situation ... so get over it.
2007-01-18 00:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by morahastits 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋