Im feeling insecure in myself at moment im not as down as i was just feeling like taht in the work place. As i am surrounded by size 8 gals who all the guys are after and theyre just referred to as the pretty ones which makes me think maybe i was hit with an ugly stick as they never say it bout me. Also im not having much luck with guys as the first guy in work i met i thought he liked me but misread the signals.
A new guy started and thought he was nice but havent had chance to talk to him much but it seems hes been getting friendly with a gal who also recently started as ive seen them meet up on the way home to walk over to the car park. I dont know if theyre dating as theyve only known each other for just over 4 weeks. Ive got an over imagination so i probs got it wrong they might just want the company going home but i just was hoping me and him might get it together but im probs been beaten to it. I just wanted the chance/opportunity to get to know him. I dont have much luck
2007-01-18 00:40:07 · 13 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont mix work and dating!
If it dont work out it can end up being embarrassing!
2007-01-18 00:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mizz Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get up to go to work in the mornings, remember that you are going to WORK. Its not a dating agency and your colleagues are just that, work colleagues. Dont get mixed up with how people relate to you. Some clever person may use their charm to get promotion while you think he is dreaming of you, this is not the case. In SOME circumstances, people may well fall for each other, then at work every day, they find new people arriving, and the old coat is discarded, you! I would suggest that you get some self-esteem back in your life. Go to classes, any classes. You dont have to tart yourself up just to find a mate! The real person is there, YOU are there! But they wont see the REAL you if you are miserable or feeling down and out all day, every day. Go learn a new language, Spanish for Americans is a good idea cause this will be the main language of the USA in about 50 to 60 years time anyway, so you may well end up with a hot-bloody latino type who can communicate with! Or try learing a totally diffferent style of language, Chinese (Mandarin or Cantonese), or Hindi even. Try Russian or another East European language. The gates are open and the opportunies are huge for you. Dont look down the dark and dank alleyway when you feel down, go and have a make-over, buy a new frock or have a sauna-massage, maybe try joining some genuine, fun-loving travelling singles club. Good luck with your choices that you make, the whole world is you oyster! Maybe change your work, if that is possible, do it now but remember to love yourself first, care for yourself and be happy,
2007-01-18 08:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off how do you know the guys arent complimenting you - they're not going to say it to your face - you hear them talk about the skinnies - maybe the say the same to the size 8s about you!
Also lots of guys would consider a size 8 TOO skinny - men have finally accepted a naturaly curvy figure as being more alluring now!
With regards to the guy you like - hes obviously taken with this other girl so dont worry any more about him
Surely you dont have to rely on the guys in your office as potential romances do you? Maybe you should get yourself out and about and put yourself ina position to meet new lads.
Final word - often workplace romances arent what they seem - if things turn sour and you dont work out - can you cope with working with that person on a daily basis?!
Chin up hun ! xx
2007-01-18 08:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel inconfident about yourself. Maybe you just haven't found Mr. Right. He doesn't have to be one of your colleagues. Go out and social more. Join some clubs and find guys with the same interests as you. About that guy, find a chance to know him better. Don't be shy, think of it as making a new friend. Good luck!
2007-01-18 08:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by HopeGrace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't come across too desperate. If you seem hung up on this situation, other people that you work with will see that, and stay away even more. Don't worry about getting a boyf, it will happens ooner or later. If your happy with your own company, people will be happy with you!
And if you're not happy with the way you look, spend the time doing something about it, which will focus you energy on something more positive! Thats what i'm doing at the moment so i speak with experience...
2007-01-18 08:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by sarah e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry im sure u will find sum1 soon, n dont judge urself by other people, feel secure within urself as then that shows on the outside and ur whole ora will feel better. as for the bloke just ask him what u got to loose? why not try speed dating or summat instead of lookin at work? xx
2007-01-18 09:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try writing a short message & pass it on to him, say that you are interested in him & would like to know if he would like to go out on a date. Its OK for girls to make the first move.
if no then try this, goto a bueaty salon & get a makeover, new hairdo & make up, learn how to use make up to make yourself look different, then at work people will notice the difference.
understand that life has its ways & that there will be a time when you & someone meet & it is meant to be, do not get sad, keep your spirits high, love yourself.
2007-01-18 09:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by jimineejavaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you look for guy's where you have less competition and don't worry your pretty little head about the girls in size 8, it's the thin wood that gets a fire started but the bigger logs to keep it going, keep your chin up and ignore them.
Good luck
2007-01-18 08:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Susanna G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to make luck. Don't despair. Just practise some tactics on the next man.
2007-01-18 09:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by checkmate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really know what to tell you..but always,ALWAYS remember this:
1. love- your'e never going to find if you're looking for it.
2.if a guy was with you because of what you look like- he isnt the guy you are looking for.
just wait, the perfect guy will come. just stop looking for him. he will find you. i think you are more looking for a boyfriend rather then the person you actually want to spend time with.
think about it.
2007-01-18 08:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by Morya tal i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre just feeling very unsecure and i think that you need to go and meet new people that you feel comfortable with. eveything isnt about looks i have just had two kids and am still carrying the weight after 9mths. if you need a chat with anyone. please email me at hannah_clarke32@hotmail.co.uk as i feel the same as you and might help us both to have a chat about this
2007-01-18 08:45:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋