Should I break-up with my gf because I am in love with another girl?

Question

I am dating this girl and I like her and I heard that she loves me and has strong feelings for me. But I love this other girl more than anything and she loves me too... she knows that I am with another girl. She thinks it would be cruel of me to break-up with my gf... but I have to do something, right? We want to be together... but would it be wrong to tell my gf that I have feelings for someone else? I dont know what to do! I really love her!

Thanks a lot everyone. I did break-up in the end and it wasn't as difficult as I thought, we are still friends.
You people really helped me a lot and it was difficult to choose a best answer as most of you deserve those 10 points.

Answer 1

I think its even more cruel and wrong if you stay with someone you don't even want to be with. Sooner or later whether you like it or not someone is going to get hurt so you might as well do it now than later when her feelings are even stronger for you. It sucks but this is life and you cant always please everyone. Whatever you do, think about every single thing twice. Make sure that wont regret your choices later and do whats best for you and what makes you happy because if not then all you're going to do is second guess yourself and beat yourself in the head later on for not doing what you wanted to do in the first place.

Anyway, good luck and if you do break up with your girl...be as honest as you can be. Its hard but you'll feel better that you didn't lie and betray her and she might dislike you but later on down the road she'll be thankful for your honesty and that means enough to me. You're not doing anything wrong. You cant control who you fall in love with and you cant force yourself to please the world. Its life and all we can do is make the best of it and try to live it so that we are happy and content.

Answer 2

What would be cruel is if you continue to deceive your girlfriend into thinking you care for her. In the dating world, couples may or may not stay together. There are no guarantees. If you're in love with someone else, do the right thing and let your girlfriend go. Tell her that you've met somebody else and move on.

Before you do this, however, make sure you're not making a mistake about the girl you love. Is she really the girl for you, or does the grass just seem greener on the other side? Think about this before you make your decision.

Answer 3

I think you should do what your heart tells you but my suggestion is that if you just carry on in your current relationship yet you don't like her.. you might just hurt deeper in future.

But it will be better if you don't break up with your currently girlfriend.. you try to see whether you still can workout with her for a period of time.. if not choose appropriate timing to break-up... That's love.. once feeling fade it might just turn you into a cold blood man however that's not really a wrong thing.. but at least you still care about how your current girlfriend feeling..

Remember there is no right or wrong answer in love relationship... sorry if i din provide any help... hope u solve ur problem asap..

Cheers always

Answer 4

Break it off with everyone.Sort out and sort your very confused feelings out. If your feelings really belong to this other girl then you need to be fair to your current girl and let her go stop leading her on with false hopes, the longer you leave it the worse it will be. Dont go jumping straight to the other girl, be certain that she is the one and be wary that she might reject you too as are you attractive to her because right now she cant have you. Slow it down and clear your head, after all if the other girl is genuine she will there in a few weeks waiting for you

Answer 5

Please tell your girlfriend out of fairness and remind her that you really didn't love her enough in the first place to have entered into a relationship with her. I'd say that to spare her the "it's not you-it's me" speech. That will only hurt her more. Then you may want to stop and think for a minute if you aren't just moved by lust rather than "love". Love is a commitment while lust NEVER is nor does it have any honor.

Answer 6

just break up with her before u begin the new relationship with the other girl. if u don't love your girlfriend than it would be best to end it in a good way and just tell her it isn't working for u, will hurt her if u mention it's because of someone else.

Answer 7

Well, that´s really tough.

I think that you should breakup wiht her before she finds out for herself you have feelings for another girl and, believe you me, this will hurt a looooot more.

If you do it yourself, you don´t need to tell her you love someone else, just say you think it isn´t working, but she is very special to you... these things everyone says.

If she loves you, it´ll hurt, but there´s nothing worse in this world than to be deceived by someone you love, so go ahead and do it, and this way you can be happy with the one you love, too.

Answer 8

It is cruel to break up with your current gf. But if she finds out about this other girl, it'd break her heart. So break up with her nicely. Maybe you should give her some other reason than that it's because you're in love with another girl.

Answer 9

A typical "guy question". If you have strong feelings for someone else and it is mutual, then you are being emotionally dishonest (although most guys are) with your current gf. And if the one you love is telling you not to dump your current gf because it will "hurt her", she's a freaking martyr. So I would be careful.

Answer 10

I really don't think its cruel to break up with your gf, cos at the end of the day you're doing more damage by being with someone else while going out with her. She may not realise it now, but she'll thank you, eventually!

All the luck sweetheart