I have been invited to a baby shower, but no RSVP information was provided. There are eight hostesses for the shower, but I know none of them. Is it inproper ettiquette to not RSVP but attend the shower? Since no RSVP information was provided and no RSVP was requested on the invitation, does that mean no RSVP is expected?
Additional information regarding this invitation: It was postmarked just 12 days before the event. I received it about a week before the shower, and the guest-of-honor wasn't even registered in our town. I had to make a last-minute trip to an out-of-town store to select one of the gifts from her registry! (or pay for rush shipping for an on-line purchase to ensure it arrived on time).
2007-01-18 00:28:45 · 7 answers · asked by JenV 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If this invitation weren't for someone close, my first impulse would be to ignore it altogether. But the guest-of-honor has always been so polite in the past (promptly replies with sweet, personal thank you notes when she receives gifts). So I won't shun her because of the actions of her hostesses.
2007-01-18 00:30:36 · update #1
If there is no RSVP info. no you don't have to, just show up.
2007-01-18 00:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guest of honor is a sweet woman and follows proper etiquette herself, then why not call her and RSVP to her stating that there was no contact number on the invitation for the hostesses. She obviously gave your name as someone she wanted there, so 2 good things will happen if you call her:
1) You get your RSVP in
2) You get to tell her, in her most exciting time of her life, that you're not only going to be there, but that you're looking forward to it.
1 minute phone call, RSVP done, friend happy!!!! Everyone wins ;o)
2007-01-18 08:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by TJTB 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi. It sounds like the hostesses for this shower didn't quite know the proper etiquette on a few levels. Since you don't know how to reach them, I wouldn't worry about an RSVP. I'd show up with a smile, be gracious by not mentioning anyone's lack of proper etiquettte (becasue THAT would be bad etiquette LOL), and have a great time!
2007-01-18 08:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by leahcutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can find out a name or number for one of the hostesses, call them, or drop them a note. If not, show up, gift in hand, and a smile. If anyone one says anything, and they shouldn't, it would be rude, just say, gee, I tried to find an address or number, but I could not, and since there was no return on the envelope, or a RSVP card....
Really, they should have said, "No RSVP required" that would have solved the problem, and been the polite thing to do.
How nice of you to want to respond, and to go out of your way to please the mommy to be.
2007-01-18 11:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know (or can look up) the address or number of at least one of the hostesses, or if there's a return address on the envelope, there's no reason not to give them a call or send a note. Otherwise, don't worry about it.
2007-01-18 08:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No RSVP needed because they assume you will go.
2007-01-19 02:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think they expected you to attend...probably because your out of town..Although, (I am suspicious by nature)...there might be more to it...not sure...just an odd feeling I had when I read your question...jealousy or some sorts..
2007-01-18 11:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋