I went on a date with an older guy last night. I'm 25 and he was 34. He has a great personality and has his life together and is well off. I know that he would treat me wonderfully but I'm not attracted to him. I'm not sure what to do.
2007-01-18 00:25:45 · 9 answers · asked by sugarcarat 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a gold digger. It's just nice to date someone who isn't broke for a change.
2007-01-18 00:36:04 · update #1
I don't see what's wrong with giving him a chance. Sometimes it does take a little while for an attraction to develop, so if he's kind to you and all the rest...relax and see where it goes. Keep things casual (I mean, don't sleep with him, don't go meeting his family and friends, don't let him take you on really extravagant dates, etc.) so you don't build his hopes up and see where things go. If after another couple of casual, light-hearted dates you still don't find yourself attracted to him, then break things off gently and let him find somebody who will find him attractive.
Good luck.
2007-01-18 00:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not attracted to him, and the only reason you go out with him is because he is well off, then you would be a gold digger. If that is the way you see yourself, then go for it. Personally, I would choose the option that shows you respect yourself.
2007-01-18 08:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, what's your motivation? Do you want to get married? or do you want to party? If you are looking for a long term relationship the could lead to marriage I'd give the guy a 2nd chance. Who knows you might find a big turn on about him. If you want to play the field for the next few years then move on to the next guy so he won't be wasting his time with you.
2007-01-18 08:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by allisoneast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always sickens me when a woman describes a man she just met IMMEDIATELY as "well off"....is that really so important that you can't think of any other characteristics to describe him.....why don't you be honest with your question and say what you really mean i.e. "i met this really wealthy older guy but I'm not attracted to him...should I still go out with him anyway cause he at least has money"....be honest with yourself if he wasn't older and had money you wouldn't even be thinking about going on a second date with him!
2007-01-18 08:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask, the answer is probably NO! Be smart, date people who you want to date, not who other people tell you too date. If you're not attracted to him, you're not being fair and true to either you or him. It's okay to just say "No Thank You", you know?
2007-01-18 08:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider his feelings perhaps? Is there some reason you think he should have to settle for someone who is not attracted to him? There are other women out there who would be attracted to him. It sounds like he deserves a woman who is actually interested in him, not his wallet.
2007-01-18 08:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by thatartistwin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in love at first sight. I believe in a very good relationship based on love of course and personality. Definitely you need to go on a second date.
2007-01-18 08:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not attracted to him - are you a gold digger or what?
Find some shallow rich guy that may appeal to you more.
2007-01-18 08:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if your not attracted to him then, no you don't need to go on a date with him agin. who cares if he is "well off" if your not attracted to him then what's the point? find someone closer to your age that you do like..
2007-01-18 08:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋