I know our kids are a real blessing, but what would you love to be able to do again, or have, that you did before you had kids?
2007-01-18 00:25:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
spontaneity
Being able to get up and go without needing several hours of preparation. But I wouldn't trade it back - no way!
2007-01-18 00:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33 and pregnant wit my first. I imagine there will be things about my pre-mom life I will miss, probably being able to jump in the car and go wherever I want or need to. But, this is why I waited this long, I'm ready to be tied down now. I am curious to hear what others have to say. My stepmom raised me from 5 years old and she got pregnant with her first at 18, all through my childhood we heard her complain of how she missed out on so much because of us. It's very sad and probably a factor in why I decided to wait this long.
2007-01-18 08:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what I miss the most is being able to leave my house whenever I wanted. I could just go wherever anytime. My husband and I could go hang out with friends and not have to worrya bout finiding a babysitter. Now we need at least a couple of weeks notice before we can go out. And I could also shower alone! LOL!! I miss my showers. My daughter is a blessing and I thank god for her everyday but I think that is what I miss most.
2007-01-18 08:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Randi P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seemed to me more like a Three-Part Question....
1) What I miss :
INNOCENCE OF CHILDREN....
2) What I would have loved to do again:
TO ENJOY THE BLESSINGS OF NOT BEING A PERSON RESPONSIBLE FOR A WHOLE FAMILY AND GOD ONLY KNOWS WHAT ELSE.....
3) Before having kids:
WOULD HAVE PROPERLY PLANNED THERE PRESENCE INTO THIS LIFE WITH BETTER ACCURATE MEASURES...
Meaning...How in the heck am I gonna be able to get them all into universities for studies while they are so close in age....
18, 16, 14 and 12 years old.....
God helps.....
2007-01-18 08:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my son very young (18) I'm almost 19, and married, so obviously I wish I could be doing a lot of the things typical 18/19 year olds do, and wish I had more one on one time with my husband, we got married when I was 6 months pregnant, so I also wish I wasn't carrying a big bulge sometimes when I got married. Sleep is definetly another major thing I miss!
2007-01-18 10:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by joanafitch8876 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My God it would be so nice to sleep in!!
Or how about a nice romantic evening with my hubby, candlelit dinner, making love in front of the fire!
Or a vacation someplace that is for couples only without having to figure out who is going to stay with the kids for the week!
I love my kids but man I miss spoiling myself!
2007-01-18 10:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by puckbunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to be able to walk out the door and not to worry about coming home!!! Going to have a shower in peace, even going to the loo would be nice!! Being able to leave all my doors and windows open, not worrying about the washing or making dinner, having that little bit of extra spending money, still being able to work.....god i could go for ever....but i love my girls more than anything and i cant imagine life without them now....until i need to go the loo!!!!!
2007-01-18 08:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by lisa f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I miss my figure the most! And a body without stretch marks!!
I would wait a couple more years to have kids--get a little older and have more time with my husband (at the time) before we dove into the parenting roles.
2007-01-18 08:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DRINKING!!! We're not alcoholics, but before children, my husband and I went out a lot more. We went out at least once a month and spent too much money. Now, we get out like that 3-4 times a year; are WAY more cautious about how we spend our money; and aren't as irresponsible as we used to be! I miss going out with no strings attached!
2007-01-18 10:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by niccichick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two daughters who are both grown: ages 25 & 21.
I had my first daughter when I was 21, my second when I was 25 (LOL reverse of their ages now).
What I missed the most back then was sleep. My first born had a bad case of colic. It was a total nightmare that I didn't think I would live through.
I was the first one of "the group" to get married and have a child, so I also missed being able to make or receive a phone call saying "hey, we're all going out tonight, or wanna go shopping, hang out at the pool, etc? ........."
Eventually, they stopped calling because I wasn't able to just "go" on the spur of a moment. That was a little rough on me back then. But then they finally started getting married and having kids, and I became the one that was envied.
It was easier for me because I had a toddler who of course could walk, talk, slept all night, off of the bottle, potty trained, able to eat regular food, etc. I wasn't dragging around a 20 lb diaper bag, a baby swing, pumpkin seat, walker, playpen, etc and it was easier for me to find a babysitter for a toddler.
What I miss now and would love to be able to do again:....Those days! I look back on all of that now and wish I was back there again. Our children grow up way too fast and they become adults before you know it.
I have loved being a mom. I was fortunate that I didn't have to work and was able to be a stay at home mom so I threw my whole life into my kids. I was room mom, P.T.A, teacher's aide, (I think I graded more papers than the teachers) volunteered for every field trip & school function (carnivals, field day, plays, Secret Santa sale, etc.)
I was the "kool-aid" mom where all the kids hung out at our house. My husband never could understand why our grocery bill was so high...well heck, when you have all of those mouths to feed! LOL Can't forget all of those slumber parties either. I don't know why they call them "slumber" because NOBODY sleeps! I have more kids, (adults now) than I can count, who call me "mom." I wouldn't have had it any other way.
Being the mom of two grown daughters, I have such fond memories of their childhood and have so many stories to tell them and to eventually share with my grandchildren; but more importantly, my girls validate my whole adult life, first by being such great daughters but also them sharing with me their memories and their pride in the kind of mom I have been to them.
I'm 46 years old and don't feel like I missed out on anything by having my children early in my life. In fact, I'm in a better situation now than my "pre-children" days....I'm still young enough to enjoy "my time" with my husband and have more money.
I know this is so cliche'...but...enjoy those babies while ya got em. You're going to wake up one day and they are going to be all grown up. Please don't rush it - enjoy it. Honest to goodness, it feels like just yesterday I was baking cupcakes for school parties, checking under the bed after I was told "my room IS clean" and putting band-aids & kisses on boo-boos.
2007-01-18 10:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by Riviera_ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I miss sleeping in the morning until noon and then sitting around reading the paper and drinking coffee half the afternoon. But Ill survive!!
2007-01-18 08:37:48 · answer #11 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋