what`s meant by a break?

Question

my girlfriend announced a break 6months ago, after a few months of depression i got back into it and starting going with other girls, one night standers nothing serious, now she`s found out she`s started giving me the " your not honest and why did you do this" she just said she`s really starting to miss me but doesn`t know if she wants to be with me. please someone translate all this, give me some advice, i want to be with her but not full time again. someone must of been through this and i need to know what to do.

Answer 1

I would read a 'break' as a polite way of saying she doesn't want to go out with you anymore. Presumably during this break she hasn't found it so easy to meet and go out with other guys so now wants to get back to safety and security with you. If you have been honest in what you say, I really don't think she should chastise you over your relationships. I think you need to take control of the situation and start telling her what you want just like she originally told you what she wanted ... I'm female by the way just in case you're wondering.

Answer 2

She is being really unfair. A break in her eyes means she leaves you, but then expects you to sit around celibate whilst she decides if she still wants a relationship with you. It is not going to work out if she is going to hold your one night stands against you -supposing you get back together at all.
I suggest you talk properly about both of your expectations. Give her a time limit- say a month- and if she won't make a decision at that point then move on.
Your self esteem will be shot to pieces if you continue like this, no matter what you feel for one another, as this situation is giving no-one any respect.

Answer 3

Well,she wanted a break and she has got it!
Carry on with your life, see other girls..........she has got no right to say that you have been dishonest, ''being on a break'' basically means that she wanted out of the relationship.
Now she is having second thoughts because you are back on your feet and doing just fine without her.
Funny thing, psychology, believe it or not, but it is as simple as your personal energy shift. When you are depressed and lonely, no one wants to be with you, however, as soon as you feel confident, happy and strong people are drawn to you.
Basically, you have to do what is best for you. Tell your ex she needs to figure out what she wants from you, she cannot have her cake and eat it. She either wants you back or not, period.
Then you can also make a decision and choose to give her a second chance or not. Do not let her play any mind games with you.
My ex did that to me, and I decided to take him back even though he was still not sure about us. I ended up being hurt even more then, when we broke up the first time. All I am saying is be careful! Do not let her brake your heart yet again.........
Best of luck xx

Answer 4

Your gf announced a break 6 months ago. That meant that you were BOTH free to date others as you see fit.

Her problem with what you've done may actually be the one-night stands, which are a great turn-off to most women. It tells her that you treat sex as something casual rather than special and that you have a very low opinion of women.

Answer 5

being on a break just means some time apart, you were single so she is being ignorant. usually going on a break to a woman either means:
#time apart for her to finish studies-no dating#
#see other people-find out if your the one she really wants#

for her to say that, she must have made herself clear.it wasnt like you jumped in bed the second she announced this break-up. you wasnt dishonest but she cant expect you to stay single until she decides its back on.

talk to her and ask her if there is any chance you'll be getting back together, as she might just be stringing you on and that is not fair. she can be honest with you and tell you how long this break-up is going to last or you'll move on as it isnt fair that you are back on when she decideds she wants you back.

Answer 6

Simply put, she wants to have her cake and eat it! She basically broke up with you but felt "a break" wouldn't sound as bad and now she's found out that you're having your wicked way elsewhere she can't handle it. Leave it all behind you and enjoy your life - you don't want some stressy semi-girlfriend messing you about, life has enough stresses without some muddled woman confusing you. Good luck! ;)

Answer 7

seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it. She can't dictate the terms of a split after the event. If she wanted you to be still exclusive, then she should have said, but why would you seperate at all if you were to be exclusive. It's likely she realised the grass ain't greener, either that or she lucked out trying to find someone for herself. She's the one being dishonest - to herself. I would start laying the law down if I was you, if you don't want to be exclusive, tell her thems the rules.

Answer 8

when a girl says she wants a break, it usually means that she dont kno wot she wants an she wants time 2 find out. 6 months is pushin it tho. she is jealous of u sleepin around durin ur break so she obviously still wants 2 b wi u. but i think she wants best of both worlds. she wants u but she enjoys bein single. if she really really wanted 2 b wi u she wouldnt hav taken 6 months 2 work it out an she wouldnt b sayin she dont kno if she wants 2 b wi u. giv her the ultimatum, tell her u need 2 get on wi ur life cos not knowin if ur 2getha or not is makin u miserable. if she dont make her mind up go out, hav fun n find sum1 who treats u how u deserve 2 b treated

Answer 9

It's called 'having your cake and eating it'
If you are on a break, she gets the best of both worlds - ie she gets all the advantages of being single, but can come running back if she doesn't pick up anyone better, and feels in the mood for a bit of male company.
tell her that she's a hypocrite and to FOAD.

Answer 10

when someone suggest's a break it pretty much means that they are bored with the relationship and need some time away from you. 8 times out of 10 couples will not get back together.