I am getting married this winter, and I am wondering who I should ask to be the flower girl.
My family lives over seas, so none of my young family members can't make it to the wedding in the US.
I am a teacher and I am very close (like a family friend) to one of my student who is 10 (she looks up to me like her sisiter).
I would love for her to be in my wedding, but I am wondering if I shouldn't ask since she isn't family.
Does anyone knows what the etiquette for this situation? Thanks!
2007-01-17 23:44:37 · 26 answers · asked by KN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont think so! You can have whoever you want to be your flower girl. I think your student would be great for the job! Congrats on my behalf!
2007-01-17 23:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally, flower girls are the youngest sister of bride or groom as long as they are 12 or under. I was flower girl for a distant relative when I was 6 because the bride had too many young relatives that would have to be chosen from. As to using a student. How will the rest of the class feel when they are left out? If it's a former student, you could get away with it. You can ask a non-relative to be a flower girl.
2007-01-18 00:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In those situations it would want to properly be all or none, through wear thoughts of those who get disregarded (and their households). actual i imagine you've already made a mistake finding out on one in all of your nieces previous to the others. What i'd have executed is haven't any flower women. by already asking one niece you've placed your self in a demanding challenge. From right here, i'd use the "closest relative" technique. Nieces are closer than cousins or 2d cousins. Ask the different nieces you've. do no longer ask both 2d cousin. clarify to anybody who asks that it became a puzzling selection so that you went with the nearest kin, the nieces. sure his cousin's relations receives disenchanted, yet it truly is the way it is going, you do not owe them (or everyone else) a flower lady position.
2016-11-25 01:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by adule 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride can ask anyone she wants - and sometimes if there is a young girl on the groom's side, she can be asked as well.
As long as there are no family members who will feel left out or hurt, go ahead and have the flower girl you want. Or two or three or four. Sounds like it would be important to her, and more to the point, it would be important to you.
Your wedding - your choice - go for it.
2007-01-17 23:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is generally customary to have a family member as your flower girl, however we live in a more open society today, and given the fact that your family lives over seas I see nothing wrong with asking someone else. If I were going to ask my student, I would talk to her parents about it first.
2007-01-18 00:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by GENE D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, the flower girl[s] do not have to be family. It's entirely your choice.
Your situation/question reveals that you are certainly sensitive to other's feelings. That's very good, of course, but there's no etiquette law that should tell you whom to pick as your flower girl. Worry about it no further. It's your wedding. Don't make the mistake of trying to make everyone else happy. Be sensitive, of course, as you are. But make the decisions that make it your day, not everyone else's. You'll be glad you did. Have FuN! ~ everyone else will, too.
2007-01-18 00:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by NoTlazidazi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's your wedding, ask whoever you like. Particularly as you don't have any suitable member of the family available. It might be different if you had a little sister who could do it and you asked somebody else but no I think it's a great idea, she'll be thrilled I'm sure.
2007-01-17 23:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations!
Your flower girl, ring bearer, bridesmaids, groomsmen - all should be people who are close to you and your partner.
If you have talked to this girls parents and they are agreeable to it, then by all means, ask your "little sister" to be your flower girl. Just keep in mind, she isn't as young as many flower girls are, so try to take her age into consideration when you get her dress.
Peace!
2007-01-17 23:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by J m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, they don't have to be. A lot of people use friends children. It doesn't always have to be a family member.
2007-01-18 01:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by Reggie G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is your wedding, your choice, your ideas, your day! So, go for what you know and do what you want to do. It is your wedding, do what makes you happy! Congratulations and God bless****
2007-01-17 23:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋