My boyfriend's sister's childish behaviour, is affecting my life, and my relationship?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for several years and although we are very happy, his sister is putting a lot of strain on our relaionship. She makes nasty comments and tries to belittle me when we are in his families company, although she is very careful who is there when she does it, and never when her dad is there. She now works in my office and she has started doing it there as well. I am in a senior position, although not in her direct department, but she makes comments to other members of staff about me, kind of trying to mock me like a child, and purposely does the opposte of what I say.
Although I do tell my boyfriend, I feel I have to be very careful what I say, as it is his sister. This is all really upsetting me, and although I enjoy my job and in the have worked very hard to be in the position I am. I am feeling that I may have to look for another job.
What can I do?

Answer 1

Talk to her outside of work and tell her that you will use your position to bring disciplinary action within the work place if her conduct continues. If she thinks she can get away with it (she does at family gatherings) than she will continue. Put a stop to this now , you have let it go on too long. Depending on your work policies , she can be brought in for disrupting the workplace, slander, and creating a hostile work environment. Good Luck and stand your ground.

Answer 2

Family: Where is your boyfriend when she's belittling you? Tell him that her words and actions (perfectly intelligent men have been known to be oblivious in some areas) are puting an intolerable strain on you. For the next few family gatherings, subtly point it out each time it happens. Then when the time is ripe and she does it again, let him go after her and have at her privately. She obviously needs his affection and won't want to lose it. Hopefully this will stop her. He may need to do this a few times (try arching your brow at him as a signal if he didn't "get it")
to break her bad habit. If he's really a peacenik, how well do you get on with the mother or can you confide in your boyfriend's favorite relative? I'm sure the sister's barbs have not gone un-noticed.
Office: Tell the girl's supervisor the situation and that you'd like to start documenting her insubordination towards you. Other misbehavior is her supervisor's job. Follow office procedure and hopefully she'll be let go.

The Golden Rule "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." works both ways and didn't become a famous saying because it is meaningless drivel. They are good words to live by.

Answer 3

Honey, the last thing I would do is get another job because of this bytch. Use your position with the company to set this "broad" straight. Remember, she may be on her turf when she is with the family, but she's on YOUR turf when she's at work. When she does the opposite of what you say, that is insubordination ... and the fact that she's in a different department if you do not have direct superevisory authority over her ... you are "management" and you and her supervisor work together on straightening her sorry butt out.

You need to be upfront with your boyfriend. And you need to challenge her when she mocks you in front of other people. If you continue to be "afraid" you will upset someone, she's going to keep doing it until she knows you will call her out.

Answer 4

I read somewhere on how to dela with such people.In the article they pointed out that people who act in this manner either have nothing going in their lives, they envy the way you are handling their life and the have a low self-esteem.The best way is to have a quite talk with them. Take a deep breath and an repeat whatever they are saying.When you get so angry half way throught he conversation tell them that you have to getback to them on that one.
Take note of everything they say or the bad way that they talked about you.This could be a beginning in letting her go from her position at her work place.
Let her bro tak to her and let her know that he still loves the way he loved her while they were younger.
In your spare time you could fing her a man who will keep her busy.
Every thng fails skip time and you only get to meet during vacation

Answer 5

1. You were there first... how in the heck did she get a job in the same place you did?
2. Talk to your boss, lower rank employees have been known to be fired for being a troublemaker and she sounds like one.
3. Talk to your bf and tell him flat out you cannot go to anymore family functions. That his sister hurts you and if he insists on taking you to one the minute she starts attacking you burst into tears and get the whole families attention!
That will take care of his precious sister!

Answer 6

Don't be that weak,next time you will have your boyfriend for her,go girl show her who's boss

Answer 7

let dogs to howl when you going up.