how do you tell someone that they are too insecure and under confident without making them feel worse?

Answer 1

Be jovial, and upbeat with them all the time. Always praise them for work well done. Never flatter them though, as they will see through that and begin to hate you for your insincerity. Show them that they are competent and this will automatically begin to instill the confidence in them that they have been lacking.

Begin by asking them to do small tasks that are easy to complete and give them due praise as it is accomplished. Gradually increase the hardness of these tasks and you will see their confidence also increase with each level of success.

Be there for them when they fail as well, but be nonchalant and act as if that particular task was not that important anyhow, and that there is another thing that you would like to do with them.

Yes, that's right. At first pick tasks for y'all to do together, then over time as you see their confidence and abilities in self reliance increase, gradually wean them off of you as a necessary part of their own successes. And genuinely take joy in their successful completions of any project.

If you do not have the time to give to this person to really and genuinely help them, then don't do it or start it at all. You failing them, would be the biggest blow to their confidence of all.

Answer 2

You don't if they're insecure and under confident telling them that will just make them feel worse, instead try getting them to do things to overcome this take them out with a bunch of friends to do something fun, give them some good feedback when they do something like "hey your really good at that" or "maybe you could give me some tips on that" don't over do it but give them something to go home feeling good about them self, get them to see the lighter side of life, there's probably a good reason as to why they are this way

Answer 3

One, they probably already know to some degree, unless this is simply your perception and not he actual state of their esteem. However, if it is indeed the case, you might want to help with the particulars that make-up their lack of confidence instead of just talking about it.

Answer 4

I wouldn't say that to anybody unless I intended to make them feel worse.