okay, whilst typing this, i'm gng to be really sincere tho i guess i'd be getting different kinds of responses.I'm a graduate in Law but deep in me i'm a coward.i am doing my post graduate course in order tht i can practise as a lawyer.the exam is damn tough. so more time is needed into studyin.my problem is tht, i'm scared to open my mouth and ask ppl for help if i have a problem in my studies,even during lectures, i get scared to say something because of fear tht i might be looked down.i feel a deep pain in my heart like pulpitation.now, there's a new thing tht i dont know in my studies and i'm scared to ask anyone for help coz i'm scared and feeling inferior.my exam will be in july 2007.can someone help me to overcome this "fear"?
2007-01-17 21:16:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think everyone goes through phases of worrying that they might be looked down on for asking for any help. Particularly when they are doing something "complicated" like you are, where presumably everyone in your lectures etc are pretty intelligent.
However, no-one learns without asking questions. Can you not speak to one of your tutors, or another student you are friendly with, outside of the class situation.
It sounds like you are having a confidence problem at the moment. Is anything else bothering you that could be making you feel inferior, and this is reflected in your study worries?
Just a little talking therapy, or possibly hypnotherapy, might be a way forward. Yoga, meditation, breathing exercises etc may well help with the palpitations but I think as far as the fear of asking for help is concerned, I think you may have to face your fear. I'm sure if you manage to speak to one of your tutors in private, and explain that there are things that you just don't understand, they would be more than happy to assist. After all, they want you to be successful in your degree too.
2007-01-17 21:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by emsr2d2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see two things you can do aside from your normal studying routines.
1. Speak with your professor or his/her assistants outside of class time during office hours. Tell them you're concerned about the material and the exam, and see if they have any tips, suggestions, or other information they can offer. You have nothing to lose by asking. You lose nothing by asking, and you show initiative, which they should commend you for.
2. Don't hesitate to ask your classmates to form a study group. Chances are good that they are just as worried and nervous as you, and would welcome a chance to get together and work through the material. This way, you're not exactly asking for help, even though you get help in the end. You also end up helping them as well. The worst that can happen is people will say no. Nobody is going to think less of you for trying to put together a study group though. If you're a college-age student, any social activity like this is usually looked upon most favorably. Just make sure you stick to the books!
2007-01-18 05:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by thebobcatreturns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over one bridge and onto the next , a lot more people feel like this than you would think see a therapist they can give you some good hints but the best thing is to just do it you need to start answering questions whether they're right or wrong it'll teach you new things it'll help you do better in your exam and most of all it is the only way to get over your fear. You are inferior everyone is inferior everyone makes mistakes but we learn from those mistakes and right now your not letter your self make any so you will not move ahead. You need to suck up all the information you can to pass this exam so start talking to your teachers start getting things wrong surprise your self you may even be getting things right, if its too scary to jump in head first talk to your teacher after class then progress to asking questions in class.
2007-01-18 05:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the exact same situation. And the old cliched bullshit applies here. You can run, or you can stay and fight. The choice is yours. I decided to run. And im regretting it ever since. You're doing this for a reason, arent' you? And you're obviously there because you're good enough. Stop worrying about what everyone else is thinking and go do what you need to do to succeed. God I wish someone said that to me a couple of years ago. In one of your notebooks or whatever you carry around, write why you are doing this, so everytime your feeling like a chicken, look at it, read it, and do something about it. I wish you all the luck in the world. Go get 'em tiger! *giggle*
2007-01-18 09:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by *~Ally~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might help, Dora, to know that 90% of your peers likely feel the same way.
It is the absolute truth that in today's society, seeking help for things is not an inferred weakness on the individual, rather it is considered a sign of strength to reach out.
Every single person in the world needs something at one time or another and is in the position of having to ask for help.
Find someone that you respect and like among your classmates, then at a time when they're by themselves, approach them and ask if you can get their opinion on something. I'll bet you quickly find out that the one you speak to has questions for you too!
It will likely turn into a positive experience of information exchange.
You're not alone with the way you feel. Because of my upbringing, I too felt that asking for help was a sign of weakness. Boy, was I wrong.
So it's up to you to make that first step, then you never know, it might turn into a good friendship.
God Bless and thanks for reading.
2007-01-18 05:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by krazykritik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be such a tragedy if there was one less lawyer in the world.
2007-01-18 06:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by the universe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋