ok well first a few facts. I'm 36 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend broke up with me at around 15 weeks (when we found out). He still loved me at the time and begged me to have an abortion but I couldn't go through with it so he left me. We started seeing each other again a few months later, although he still wasnt happy about the baby and ended up freaking out and ending things again.
Now we hadnt seen each other in about a month, but the other day I went over to his to drop some of his stuff off. We got talking and I ended up staying there. He seemed so much better about the baby although he still doesnt know what he wants to do. Up until then he'd always refused to feel the baby kick, but this time he seemed keen to feel it and when I showed him this pair of baby booties you should have seen the soppy smile on his face. He even spoke about baby names.
I'm sure he still loves me but is just scared. He kept saying how much he'd missed me and missed being with me/talking to me. He was so snuggly all weekend and barely let me out of his arms. He went away to start his training with the marines this week. We've decided that I'll give him till october to make his mind up and after that I wont wait around for him, but I dont think he'll even need that long. He said to let him know when the babys born and he'll come up and see us both when he gets leave. Do you think it sounds like he's starting to come around?
2007-01-17 21:13:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol yes he is the father of the baby.
2007-01-17 21:20:28 · update #1
Yes, it sounds like he's realizing what he has with you, and getting used to the idea of being a dad. I say things are looking good. good luck with the baby and the babie's daddy ;-) !
2007-01-17 21:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but it seems like you are enabler. He has no choice when it comes to being a father. I'd start ironing out right now, how much he wants to pay and what visitations he wants. Your main focus should be on the baby and how to make sure he/she has some type of father figure in his life. You've given him ALL the control in your life. Maybe he loves me, maybe he'll want to be a father. Boy has some major growing up to do, and as the mother I think you better know your rights.
If he's freaked out now, wait till after the baby comes. He sounds very selfish, and you better be prepared for him to run when the baby comes.
I mean, you're waiting around till Oct? FOR WHAT? Be prepared to be a single parent, at least get some child support from the bum.
2007-01-17 22:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't made a commitment by now don't bet that he will. He should be mindful that he will be held responsible for the baby's well-being even if you and he break up. He's still the baby's father, and will be held accountable to care for him/her. That part about wanting you to get an abortion kind of raises a red flag, doesn't it? Talk about being immature and not accepting responsibility for his actions!!
I do hope he comes around for everyone's sake, but don't be surprised if he backs out. He should be very thankful and happy that he's going to be a Daddy.
2007-01-17 21:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the way you wrote this sounds like it. But, only time will show how much more he wants to be there for you and the baby. He obviously is very scared though and was probably selfishly thinking how this will bring down his life.
Go along for the ride, see how he handles this situation.
His actions will speak louder than his words, so stay aware to that and not soley on those "moments" when it may seem he is finally coming around.
First priority now though, your's and your baby's future and happiness. Best wishes.
2007-01-17 21:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be but you never mentioned who is the father of the baby? Is the baby his? If yes, Congratulation !
2007-01-17 21:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by a9113257311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 14:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a loser to me - first impressions usally are what people are made up of - sounds like a jackass to me - ditch him and find a real maqn , good luck
2007-01-17 21:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by fastlanee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would have been nice to know your ages.
He sounds VERY YOUNG.
2007-01-17 21:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋